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Calling All White People, Part 58: Words really do matter

By Average White Guy | July 19, 2022 | Comments Off on Calling All White People, Part 58: Words really do matter

TODAY’S EPISODE: Use your words…but maybe not some of *those* ones There are some things you just shouldn’t say. If you’ve read me before and if you read this blog in general, you might assume I’m about to rant about avoiding the N-word. Good guess, and not entirely off the mark, but that’s just an entry point. The N-word is …

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Joy in hard times

By Shay | July 12, 2022 | Comments Off on Joy in hard times

These are strange times that we are living in—and hard ones. To be frank, the world is a dumpster fire. We are two-plus years into an intensifying pandemic that the majority has decided to simply live with or just pretend doesn’t exist. The problem with ignoring problems, though, is that they have a pesky way of growing. It could be …

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“Benefit of the doubt” gives plenty of room for violence and lies

By Samuel James | July 6, 2022 | Comments Off on “Benefit of the doubt” gives plenty of room for violence and lies

The local TV news interviewed the Highland Park killer’s uncle. The reporter asked if there had been any warning signs. The uncle repeatedly said “No.” Of course, there were warning signs. There were social media posts and a YouTube manifesto. The shooter attended the rallies of our previous president. The shooter’s father (and brother to the uncle) is the type …

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Nothing and no one is safe with this Supreme Court

By Shay | July 1, 2022 | Comments Off on Nothing and no one is safe with this Supreme Court

The Supreme Court’s decision to toss out nearly 50 years of precedent and “settled law” around Roe v. Wade has sent a lot of you into a distress, dismay, and depression. I get it; I really do. It upsets me, too. I do believe all of us are entitled to catch our breath and grieve that the conservative justices ripped …

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Of course a make-believe pirate hijacked the #MeToo movement

By Guest Poster | June 23, 2022 | 1 Comment

By Liz Henry I couldn’t help but sit back, turn off my screen, and consider: How does one combat a dickfestation? Is there an exterminator for that? Like, for the culture? Of course a make-believe pirate would hijack the progress of the #MeToo movement. I did not watch the defamation trial of Amber Heard and Johnny Depp live. This was …

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Move beyond the promise of equity, or Listen to the youth!

By Shay | June 12, 2022 | Comments Off on Move beyond the promise of equity, or Listen to the youth!

The hardest thing about being young is that people don’t listen to you, especially when you are a kid or a human under the age of 18. For some reason, the adults forget what the early years of life are like. At the age of 49, I find myself in a strange place. I am no longer the youngest person …

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Playing politics around guns and ignoring why we’re different

By Samuel James | June 10, 2022 | Comments Off on Playing politics around guns and ignoring why we’re different

Days before being elected president, Biden promised to “ban assault weapons and high-capacity magazines, implement universal background checks, and enact other common-sense reforms to end our gun violence epidemic.” There have been at least 20 mass shootings since Uvalde—including one in Philadelphia being reported on as I write this and all Biden has to say is, “I can’t dictate this …

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Questions and communion

By Shay | June 5, 2022 | Comments Off on Questions and communion

A few nights ago, I had a real-time exchange with a few local acquaintances that gave me pause—and reminded me once again of the work that white-bodied people need to do in anti-racism spaces. In short, the acquaintance, whom I had not seen in some time, was sharing that they had started following me on Twitter and that some of …

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Why all the guns?

By Samuel James | May 28, 2022 | Comments Off on Why all the guns?

There are more guns in this country than people. That is a horrifying and difficult truth. Perhaps an even more difficult truth is that the number of guns—while horrifying and difficult–is not the actual problem. It’s only a symptom. The actual disease is why we buy guns. I know that feels bad to hear and maybe a little counter-intuitive. We’re …

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Freedom to frolic

By Heather Denkmire | May 26, 2022 | Comments Off on Freedom to frolic

Last night, I saw a TikTok video where a woman who was Black was commenting on the wonderful current trend of Black men “frolicking.” The trend is that Black men are recording themselves frolicking joyfully, often in a field, frequently ending by tumbling down into some flowers. The woman’s TikTok (I’m sorry, now I can’t find it to share the …

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Critique and activism: People getting prickly about No Kings

By Shay | March 27, 2026

As the United States prepares for another No Kings Rally on March 28, emotions online are running high as seasoned organizers—many of them Black and Brown folks—express hesitation that another national rally will do much to move the needle on our current conditions in the United States. In turn, many white-bodied people are feeling prickly …

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Critique and activism: People getting prickly about No Kings

By Shay | March 27, 2026

As the United States prepares for another No Kings Rally on March 28, emotions online are running high as seasoned organizers—many of them Black and Brown folks—express hesitation that another national rally will do much to move the needle on our current conditions in the United States. In turn, many white-bodied people are feeling prickly …

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By Shay | May 29, 2022

Happy Friday! It’s a gorgeous day up in my corner of the world and way too beautiful to be writing a blog post today. So I present you with the Friday Round-Up a list of blog posts this week from other bloggers that blew my mind. Perhaps if you need to kill some time or have a quiet moment you can check them out. http://ravingblacklunatic.blogspot.com/ Check out this cat, I have been a fan of his work forever. http://www.whataboutourdaughters.com/ Good stuff here as well http://sweetersalt.com/ A Maine blogger who talks fashion and food…the best of both worlds http://paganchild-starmommy.blogspot.com/2011/03/keeping-focused.html A new blog that offers words of wisdom for all of us. http://mscleaver.com/ Another Mainer who for Lent is giving up pants, she is also a crafty gal If you have any links to good blogs, feel free to leave em. It’s my hope to make the Friday Round Up a regular feature at my new home specifically I would live to shine some light and love on smaller bloggers. It’s hard out here in this blogosphere with so many good blogs to choose from and so little time so let’s help everyone get a slice of the pie. I will be back on Monday, at that time I will unveil some ideas I have around monetizing things but You May Also Like: No related posts.

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