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A crush? Oh my!

By Shay | October 20, 2011 | 6 Comments

In a few short weeks the hubster and I will be celebrating 14 years of marital bliss, ok maybe they haven’t been all blissful but it’s been more or less a good ride. In the 16 years that we have been together, what started off as an awkward friendship has blossomed into him truly being my best friend. We are …

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Change and acceptance are good

By Shay | October 19, 2011 | 2 Comments

If you follow me on twitter, last week you may have caught my mini hair drama or crisis. I woke up last Friday and pretty much decided most of my hair had to go. I was tired of the struggle, the time and the worry. Sure I was scared that to go as short as I did back in 2000 …

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Ole Skool Connections

By Shay | October 18, 2011 | 7 Comments

I must admit blogging was not on my to-do list today, I am short staffed at the plantation since my trusty employee wanted to go on vacation…gee, imagine that a vacation? Seriously he is a good kid and still young enough that his parents include him in on the family vacation, maybe next time I should suggest he bring his …

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Standing in my truth, a public pledge to myself to keep it real!

By Shay | October 13, 2011 | 3 Comments

As a blogger who is also a writer, I spend a lot of time talking and mentioning social media that sometimes I am convinced I have readers/followers who assume I have no life offline based off the reminders/comments I get that twitter is not the real world. Really? I had no idea! You mean the families I work with daily …

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Thoughts on flirting and dating from an ole married woman!

By Shay | October 12, 2011 | 1 Comment

One of my sista friends just took the plunge and got married a few weeks ago, this is her second time around the marriage track (and who says Black women don’t get married!) and of course she is all caught up in the love glow. I am happy for her; I had to miss the nuptials but am wishing her …

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Do we really know each other?

By Shay | October 11, 2011 | 8 Comments

Until recently my refusal to see online life as part of “real” life was quite annoying to one of my dearest friends, she would often ask why I separate out the two. Like many I often thought well how can you really know “these” people? I mean can you really know someone that you have never sat down and broke …

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An offer you can’t refuse, be my testers!

By Shay | October 7, 2011 | 5 Comments

Look, I have made no secret that I have played around with the idea of monetizing this blog. I most certainly have no illusions that I am about to become the next Dooce or Pioneer Woman, I am not nearly as charming as those gals and frankly running an small non-profit keeps me plenty busy. That said while this started …

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Cooking with BGIM!

By Shay | October 7, 2011 | 2 Comments

This post is for a few folks who asked me about some recipes I had mentioned recently. For new readers, I don’t talk a great deal about it since I am always running my mouth about something else but cooking is one of my hobbies. Living in Maine in fall it also means apples galore! We recently picked quite a …

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Remember that’s a human at the other end!

By Shay | October 6, 2011 | Comments Off on Remember that’s a human at the other end!

I read this most amazing blog post yesterday and it serves as my inspiration for today’s post. I think sometimes we forget that when we are using social media no matter what form that we are interacting with real humans at the other end. Over the years especially as we have moved to using sites like twitter where someone who …

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Sprucing Up the Joint

By Shay | October 5, 2011 | 1 Comment

Happy Hump Day folks! I think today I will pass on sharing any deep thoughts but did want to acknowledge that I have done some housekeeping around the blog. Gone are the Blog Her ads, my relationship with the Blog Her network was a mismatch and we said our goodbyes. Sometimes the grass looks greener on the other side then …

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Critique and activism: People getting prickly about No Kings

By Shay | March 27, 2026

As the United States prepares for another No Kings Rally on March 28, emotions online are running high as seasoned organizers—many of them Black and Brown folks—express hesitation that another national rally will do much to move the needle on our current conditions in the United States. In turn, many white-bodied people are feeling prickly …

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Critique and activism: People getting prickly about No Kings

By Shay | March 27, 2026

As the United States prepares for another No Kings Rally on March 28, emotions online are running high as seasoned organizers—many of them Black and Brown folks—express hesitation that another national rally will do much to move the needle on our current conditions in the United States. In turn, many white-bodied people are feeling prickly …

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By Shay | May 29, 2022

Happy Friday! It’s a gorgeous day up in my corner of the world and way too beautiful to be writing a blog post today. So I present you with the Friday Round-Up a list of blog posts this week from other bloggers that blew my mind. Perhaps if you need to kill some time or have a quiet moment you can check them out. http://ravingblacklunatic.blogspot.com/ Check out this cat, I have been a fan of his work forever. http://www.whataboutourdaughters.com/ Good stuff here as well http://sweetersalt.com/ A Maine blogger who talks fashion and food…the best of both worlds http://paganchild-starmommy.blogspot.com/2011/03/keeping-focused.html A new blog that offers words of wisdom for all of us. http://mscleaver.com/ Another Mainer who for Lent is giving up pants, she is also a crafty gal If you have any links to good blogs, feel free to leave em. It’s my hope to make the Friday Round Up a regular feature at my new home specifically I would live to shine some light and love on smaller bloggers. It’s hard out here in this blogosphere with so many good blogs to choose from and so little time so let’s help everyone get a slice of the pie. I will be back on Monday, at that time I will unveil some ideas I have around monetizing things but You May Also Like: No related posts.

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