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Stop asking people of color to prove that racism still exists…

By Shay | December 22, 2013 | 6 Comments

To write is to have words in your soul that matter deeply to you; words that ultimately you hope matter to someone else.  Over the past decade I have been blessed to have my words read by others and I like to imagine that they add something of value to my readers. However as more people read my words there …

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When mama just isn’t domestic…a confession and a revelation

By Shay | December 12, 2013 | 1 Comment

Growing up in the 70s and 80s, I had no idea at the time how “different” my family was; in my mind we were just a normal family.  Of course being Black and working class, what exactly does it even mean to be normal? My Mom spent most of my childhood being a housewife (I don’t recall her ever referring …

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Dear Maine, we are trying out that poly thing…a silly post of sorts

By Shay | December 10, 2013 | Comments Off on Dear Maine, we are trying out that poly thing…a silly post of sorts

Dear Maine, It has been brought to my attention that you are going around telling people that I am leaving you for another state. A larger state, a larger city, something a bit more shiny and exciting. I understand that you are confused about your place in my life, but let me tell you what is really going on between …

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Looking back, 2013 was pretty dang good after all…a personal reflection

By Shay | December 5, 2013 | 5 Comments

Blogging and maintaining an active social media presence while working in a professional capacity that is not related to the social media world is a delicate dance and one that frankly I am not always sure that I do well. In the non-profit world that I inhabit, appearances matter as funders and donors want to know they are making wise …

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When playas play…a few thoughts on Linda and Elan

By Shay | December 3, 2013 | 1 Comment

Back in the dark ages of 1998, I jumped on the internet as part of a research class I took in my undergraduate years and I guess you could say that I have never looked back. The internet of old barely resembles today’s internet. While we didn’t have a thing called social media, we most certainly were social and connecting …

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Just a little piece of my mind…a brain dump of sorts

By Shay | December 2, 2013 | 1 Comment

Back when I started this blog in 2008 I never really expected it to grow; after all I was just another blogger yapping about my life.  Yet this space has grown and has even become a part of my professional life, which means I rarely write with the type of abandonment that was once a part of this space. However …

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When holidays hurt and changing up the tempo

By Shay | November 27, 2013 | 5 Comments

It’s Thanksgiving Eve and unlike years past, there are no frenetic kitchen happenings at my house. Instead, I went out this morning and picked up a cinnamon-walnut coffee cake and pumpkin pie at the local bakery and called around looking for any restaurant that will be open on Thanksgiving Day. After a few tense moments, I was able to secure …

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Big cities don’t like families with kids…a vent of sorts

By Shay | November 20, 2013 | 3 Comments

Despite spending the last 11 years in Maine, I am still very much a big city girl. While I have come to appreciate the simple joys of living in a rural state and the exquisite beauty of nature, at the end of the day, my heart and soul lies in the big city. It doesn’t even have to be my …

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“Why are you always talking about race?” and prophetic words from over 30 years ago

By Shay | November 18, 2013 | Comments Off on “Why are you always talking about race?” and prophetic words from over 30 years ago

“Why are you always talking about race?” This question was recently posed to me and while I was able to deflect and lighten the mood, the truth is the question annoyed me. We so desperately want to be a post-racial nation when all the evidence suggests that we are nowhere near being post-racial. It will take more than a few …

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Looking Back…Moving Forward 45 years of CCI and anti-racism work

By Shay | November 12, 2013 | 3 Comments

As many of you know, I have recently accepted a position with Community Change Inc. (CCI) in Boston, MA to come on board as their next Executive Director starting in January 2014. What you may not know is that CCI has been in the trenches for 45 years as one of the oldest, continuously operating anti-racist organizations in the nation. …

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Critique and activism: People getting prickly about No Kings

By Shay | March 27, 2026

As the United States prepares for another No Kings Rally on March 28, emotions online are running high as seasoned organizers—many of them Black and Brown folks—express hesitation that another national rally will do much to move the needle on our current conditions in the United States. In turn, many white-bodied people are feeling prickly …

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Critique and activism: People getting prickly about No Kings

By Shay | March 27, 2026

As the United States prepares for another No Kings Rally on March 28, emotions online are running high as seasoned organizers—many of them Black and Brown folks—express hesitation that another national rally will do much to move the needle on our current conditions in the United States. In turn, many white-bodied people are feeling prickly …

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By Shay | May 29, 2022

Happy Friday! It’s a gorgeous day up in my corner of the world and way too beautiful to be writing a blog post today. So I present you with the Friday Round-Up a list of blog posts this week from other bloggers that blew my mind. Perhaps if you need to kill some time or have a quiet moment you can check them out. http://ravingblacklunatic.blogspot.com/ Check out this cat, I have been a fan of his work forever. http://www.whataboutourdaughters.com/ Good stuff here as well http://sweetersalt.com/ A Maine blogger who talks fashion and food…the best of both worlds http://paganchild-starmommy.blogspot.com/2011/03/keeping-focused.html A new blog that offers words of wisdom for all of us. http://mscleaver.com/ Another Mainer who for Lent is giving up pants, she is also a crafty gal If you have any links to good blogs, feel free to leave em. It’s my hope to make the Friday Round Up a regular feature at my new home specifically I would live to shine some light and love on smaller bloggers. It’s hard out here in this blogosphere with so many good blogs to choose from and so little time so let’s help everyone get a slice of the pie. I will be back on Monday, at that time I will unveil some ideas I have around monetizing things but You May Also Like: No related posts.

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