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Blackness..who defines it?

By shay subscriber | July 24, 2008 | Comments Off on Blackness..who defines it?

In my daily cruising of blogs, I was struck by a blog I read about Soledad O’Brien and the issue of Blackness. Soledad is hosting a two part program on CNN that I have not yet seen on being Black in America and guess some folks questioned whether Soledad was really Black enough to be a part of such a discussion. For …

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Whose truth?

By shay subscriber | July 23, 2008 | Comments Off on Whose truth?

I was not raised in a traditionally Black Christian household, basically church was something we went to every few years, would have been even less than that if it were not for my Pops. My Mom was raised by her Dad who was an atheist and my Pops was a lapsed Southern Baptist. However when I was 17, Pops was …

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Are we too hard on ourselves..

By shay subscriber | July 22, 2008 | Comments Off on Are we too hard on ourselves..

I am in my second marriage, the first one lasted only half a minute, just long enough to produce my son and realize that getting married at 18 is a really bad idea for most folks. That said when I remarried at 24, I felt more or less ready. The spousal unit and I are a good fit, we are …

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White privilege.. its everywhere I am not

By shay subscriber | July 20, 2008 | Comments Off on White privilege.. its everywhere I am not

I guess the reason I won’t ever be a blogger who writes about current events is because I have a tendency to come late to the party, but that’s life when you have an almost 3 year old and only 24 hours in a day. Last post, I wrote about Jesse Jackson and the n-word but at that writing I hadn’t yet …

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The N-Word.. Should it die?

By shay subscriber | July 18, 2008 | 7 Comments

So it turns out when ole Jesse Jackson was at Fox News network talking about Barack Obama’s nuts, that he may have also slipped out the ole n-word too. Honestly, I am not surprised, I guess if you are gonna talk about another man’s balls, why not drop the ole n-word in while you are trying to make a fool of …

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How much for those carrots? You are what you eat…

By shay subscriber | July 16, 2008 | Comments Off on How much for those carrots? You are what you eat…

Today in my local town is one of two days when you can go to the Farmers Market, an event that the longer I live here in Maine is a truly joyous treat for me. Prior to moving to Maine, the farmers market was not a regular part of my life back in Chicago; of course its only been in recent …

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Image of an Angry Black Woman

By shay subscriber | July 14, 2008 | Comments Off on Image of an Angry Black Woman

There are so many wonderful Black bloggers out in the blogosphere that write about current happenings that when I decided to start blogging, I realized it was not my desire to join them since while I am a news junkie, there are simply times when the news is too much for me. However there are times I feel when I …

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Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child..Maybe Not

By shay subscriber | July 13, 2008 | 9 Comments

Like a lot of Black folks, I grew up with parents whose primary form of keeping me in line aka disciplining us kids, was to spank us, no correction was to whup the shit out of us. My two earliest childhood memories, go back to when I was 4 and 5 and involved me getting spanked. The first offense was for …

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We must take care of ourselves

By shay subscriber | July 10, 2008 | Comments Off on We must take care of ourselves

Today was a rare type of day for me, both the spousal unit and I were not working today, so I had the time to do some serious reading on-line and checking out other blogs. That said, there were several blogs I read by fellow sista bloggers that really hit upon something that has been deep in my spirit since …

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Friendships and Race- Black women and white women

By shay subscriber | July 9, 2008 | 19 Comments

Since moving to Maine, I have spent a lot of time by myself, since when I made the decision to relocate 1100 miles away from family and friends it pretty much meant re-starting over as far as friends. Don’t get me wrong I still have some close friends back in Chicago but the one thing that is missing for me …

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The world is on fire: Is it okay to rest?

By Shay | May 10, 2024

Prior to 2020, it never occurred to me—as a near-lifetime career activist—that one could simply be too overwhelmed to stay active in the work. I mean sure, life happens, but we simply must go on. Right? After all, that had been my operating style for decades until 2020.  When my mother died in the spring of …

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The world is on fire: Is it okay to rest?

By Shay | May 10, 2024

Prior to 2020, it never occurred to me—as a near-lifetime career activist—that one could simply be too overwhelmed to stay active in the work. I mean sure, life happens, but we simply must go on. Right? After all, that had been my operating style for decades until 2020.  When my mother died in the spring of …

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By Shay | May 29, 2022

Happy Friday! It’s a gorgeous day up in my corner of the world and way too beautiful to be writing a blog post today. So I present you with the Friday Round-Up a list of blog posts this week from other bloggers that blew my mind. Perhaps if you need to kill some time or have a quiet moment you can check them out. http://ravingblacklunatic.blogspot.com/ Check out this cat, I have been a fan of his work forever. http://www.whataboutourdaughters.com/ Good stuff here as well http://sweetersalt.com/ A Maine blogger who talks fashion and food…the best of both worlds http://paganchild-starmommy.blogspot.com/2011/03/keeping-focused.html A new blog that offers words of wisdom for all of us. http://mscleaver.com/ Another Mainer who for Lent is giving up pants, she is also a crafty gal If you have any links to good blogs, feel free to leave em. It’s my hope to make the Friday Round Up a regular feature at my new home specifically I would live to shine some light and love on smaller bloggers. It’s hard out here in this blogosphere with so many good blogs to choose from and so little time so let’s help everyone get a slice of the pie. I will be back on Monday, at that time I will unveil some ideas I have around monetizing things but You May Also Like: No related posts.

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