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Happiness Snatchers…get rid of em!

By Shay | June 16, 2011 | 3 Comments

You ever have a day where all is right in your universe? I am talking you wake up, maybe get a little extra loving in the morning, the kids wake up in a grand mood, in other words none of that pesky whining that can drive a parent mad at 7am. The day is just going marvelous and you end …

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No need for guilt or shame…breaks are good

By Shay | June 15, 2011 | 2 Comments

I can’t speak for anyone else but one of the upsides to growing older for me has been I am far more willing to speak my truth and be intentional in what I need to thrive and function as a fully actualized adult. Trust me, it has taken a lot of work to get to this place and in many …

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Life just happens

By Shay | June 10, 2011 | 2 Comments

I woke up this morning feeling quite refreshed despite staying up well past my bedtime and the brutal heat of yesterday. As part of my morning meditation, I laid in bed thinking that for the first time in a long time, life feels good. Not just I am having a good moment but that for the first time in a …

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It’s bad for your health

By Shay | June 9, 2011 | 2 Comments

Being less than solidly middle class with access to good quality health care that you can actually afford is bad for your health. No really it is. So many of us take it for granted that we will live a nice long life, that we now see the 50’s and 60’s as young, funny thing is that view is often …

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Food judgment is not cool

By Shay | June 7, 2011 | 5 Comments

In keeping with this week’s theme of talking about class and poverty issues, today I want to touch upon the issue of food. I have written on the issue of food in the past, and here is a great tumblr post by a gal who really gets the issues of class. However despite writing on this in the past, I …

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Taking off my mask…nope I am not like you at all

By Shay | June 6, 2011 | 9 Comments

I have a secret to share with you, of course the fact that I am putting it on this very public blog means it will no longer be a secret but that is okay. I go through most of my days feeling like a fraud, a fake, an impostor. Oh, on the surface I look like your average college educated …

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Asking for what we want

By Shay | June 4, 2011 | 1 Comment

Why is it as women we often (not always) have a tendency to place ourselves last in the needs hierarchy? We often take care of our children, partners, parents, friends and whoever else is in need of mothering but take care of ourselves? Nope, it somehow feels selfish and for many of us we can’t even muster up the courage …

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Tango Thursday

By Shay | June 2, 2011 | Comments Off on Tango Thursday

Did you miss Hump Wednesday? Yeah, so did I but that’s okay because I figure we should just have Tango Thursday. Why not? It’s a good night to dance and perhaps do more. All jokes aside I am still in computer land limbo but I hope to be back up and running soon since I have some posts that have …

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Technical Difficulties

By Shay | June 1, 2011 | 1 Comment

Sorry no new post today, my beloved workhorse computer looks like it is officially in hospice care. Thankfully my employer recently got me a snazzy new laptop that while I prefer to only use it for work stuff will have to be used for personal stuff until I see if the computer doctor can yet again repair my beloved 4 …

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Pretty for a Dark Skinned Girl…words that drive me mad!

By Shay | May 26, 2011 | 6 Comments

Modern day North American society is a tough place to be when you are a woman, but it gets even tougher when you are a Black woman whose physical hue is darker than a brown paper bag. Hundreds of years of oppression in the United States created a system where slaves quickly learned to survive by any means necessary. Often …

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Critique and activism: People getting prickly about No Kings

By Shay | March 27, 2026

As the United States prepares for another No Kings Rally on March 28, emotions online are running high as seasoned organizers—many of them Black and Brown folks—express hesitation that another national rally will do much to move the needle on our current conditions in the United States. In turn, many white-bodied people are feeling prickly …

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Critique and activism: People getting prickly about No Kings

By Shay | March 27, 2026

As the United States prepares for another No Kings Rally on March 28, emotions online are running high as seasoned organizers—many of them Black and Brown folks—express hesitation that another national rally will do much to move the needle on our current conditions in the United States. In turn, many white-bodied people are feeling prickly …

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By Shay | May 29, 2022

Happy Friday! It’s a gorgeous day up in my corner of the world and way too beautiful to be writing a blog post today. So I present you with the Friday Round-Up a list of blog posts this week from other bloggers that blew my mind. Perhaps if you need to kill some time or have a quiet moment you can check them out. http://ravingblacklunatic.blogspot.com/ Check out this cat, I have been a fan of his work forever. http://www.whataboutourdaughters.com/ Good stuff here as well http://sweetersalt.com/ A Maine blogger who talks fashion and food…the best of both worlds http://paganchild-starmommy.blogspot.com/2011/03/keeping-focused.html A new blog that offers words of wisdom for all of us. http://mscleaver.com/ Another Mainer who for Lent is giving up pants, she is also a crafty gal If you have any links to good blogs, feel free to leave em. It’s my hope to make the Friday Round Up a regular feature at my new home specifically I would live to shine some light and love on smaller bloggers. It’s hard out here in this blogosphere with so many good blogs to choose from and so little time so let’s help everyone get a slice of the pie. I will be back on Monday, at that time I will unveil some ideas I have around monetizing things but You May Also Like: No related posts.

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