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Words that move…tales of speaking my truth

By Shay | June 28, 2012 | 1 Comment

One of the greatest things that can happen to a writer aside from earning a paycheck for their labor is to know that the words they write affect the people who read those words. While I have been blogging for the past four years, it’s been almost a decade since I entered the world of being a paid writer and …

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It’s Wednesday, try smiling!

By Shay | June 27, 2012 | Comments Off on It’s Wednesday, try smiling!

My natural default setting is mean and bitchy, traits that I spent years reveling in until it reached the point that being mean and bitchy was keeping me down in more ways than one. As a naturally mean and bitchy gal, it means I have a high tolerance for snark but lately I find that snark and meanness tire me …

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Ya can’t have it all, because all is an illusion

By Shay | June 25, 2012 | 4 Comments

One of the greatest blessings I have had in my life was to know many women we would call senior citizens, some were family members like my beloved Granny and others were friends I made on my own. For some reason even as a child I enjoyed sitting around listening to older women talk, I suspect that was the universe …

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I am too proud to beg!

By Shay | June 23, 2012 | 1 Comment

The decision to write a personal blog and share details of your personal life is an incredibly vulnerable experience and while it can bring many rewards it can also bring much criticism. In the past year, the criticism that I have heard from readers at times has left me incredibly raw and on the brink of saying the hell with …

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Marriage isn’t quite what it used to be regardless of race

By Shay | June 22, 2012 | 2 Comments

I am in faux vacation mode; I call it faux because regular readers know I stay busy like a field hand in 1887. However today aside from dealing with email for an hour, I pretty much chilled on the beach with my kids and had no intentions of writing anything tonight. That was until I checked in on twitter and …

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Nope, it’s not us versus them at all

By Shay | June 21, 2012 | 3 Comments

As a blogger you never know when you are going to write a post that just strikes a nerve with your readers, but it seems my last post was the one that did it. It seems that I am not the only mother who also blogs who is wondering where the hell is my place at the table? Granted I …

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Yep, we want a place at the table too! Mothering while brown…imagine that?

By Shay | June 19, 2012 | 6 Comments

Sometimes you read an article that just speaks to your soul so much that you think the author snuck in your brain and stole your thoughts. That’s the case with this piece I read late last night by Kimberly Seals Allers, Ms. Allers basically summed up many of the thoughts that I have had recently when it comes to the …

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Rights, responsibilities and fear

By Shay | June 18, 2012 | 7 Comments

I am torn on whether I should actually blog about this but I think speaking out is key and heaven forbid something goes terribly wrong and I end up sliced up like a piece of kielbasa, well the cops can start here. I live in a small city (or town as I think of it in my mind) and for …

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Reflections on Papa

By Shay | June 17, 2012 | Comments Off on Reflections on Papa

This was originally posted on June 21, 2009 and pretty much captures my feelings on Father’s day. Its Father’s Day, a day that frankly IMO gets not nearly enough fanfare compared to Mother’s Day. Of course we live in a world where sadly fathers are sometimes not around and Mama plays the role of both Mama and Papa. I always …

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The diagnosis is fear

By Shay | June 15, 2012 | 1 Comment

“The meeting was progressing smoothly, until someone made a suggestion of how the group could make some new and much needed changes, suddenly he felt threatened. How dare this interloper suggest they try new ways of being, the old ways had worked for years. The man continued to feel threatened as everyone nodded in agreement with the interloper that the …

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Critique and activism: People getting prickly about No Kings

By Shay | March 27, 2026

As the United States prepares for another No Kings Rally on March 28, emotions online are running high as seasoned organizers—many of them Black and Brown folks—express hesitation that another national rally will do much to move the needle on our current conditions in the United States. In turn, many white-bodied people are feeling prickly …

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Critique and activism: People getting prickly about No Kings

By Shay | March 27, 2026

As the United States prepares for another No Kings Rally on March 28, emotions online are running high as seasoned organizers—many of them Black and Brown folks—express hesitation that another national rally will do much to move the needle on our current conditions in the United States. In turn, many white-bodied people are feeling prickly …

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By Shay | May 29, 2022

Happy Friday! It’s a gorgeous day up in my corner of the world and way too beautiful to be writing a blog post today. So I present you with the Friday Round-Up a list of blog posts this week from other bloggers that blew my mind. Perhaps if you need to kill some time or have a quiet moment you can check them out. http://ravingblacklunatic.blogspot.com/ Check out this cat, I have been a fan of his work forever. http://www.whataboutourdaughters.com/ Good stuff here as well http://sweetersalt.com/ A Maine blogger who talks fashion and food…the best of both worlds http://paganchild-starmommy.blogspot.com/2011/03/keeping-focused.html A new blog that offers words of wisdom for all of us. http://mscleaver.com/ Another Mainer who for Lent is giving up pants, she is also a crafty gal If you have any links to good blogs, feel free to leave em. It’s my hope to make the Friday Round Up a regular feature at my new home specifically I would live to shine some light and love on smaller bloggers. It’s hard out here in this blogosphere with so many good blogs to choose from and so little time so let’s help everyone get a slice of the pie. I will be back on Monday, at that time I will unveil some ideas I have around monetizing things but You May Also Like: No related posts.

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