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Society prefers closets and would be happy to stuff you back in yours

By Shay | November 11, 2013 | 1 Comment

There is a great clip floating around the internet by Ash Beckham who recently spoke about her experience of being asked by a four year old if she were a boy and the universal experience of coming out of a closet. In our culture the term “coming out of the closet” is often used to refer to one’s sexuality but …

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Weed legalization and the disenfranchised or racial profiling 2.0…questions for Maine Greens

By Shay | November 7, 2013 | 2 Comments

Portland, Maine legalized recreational marijuana use this week, what follows is a letter written by a personal friend of mine and community member Keita A. Whitten, LMSW-cc. Below is an open letter she wrote posing some interesting questions. Often times talk of legalization excludes the impact on disenfranchised communities. Good morning Greens and supporters, Yahoo! Congratulations on your recent victory, …

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A personal post where I admit to feeling some type of way or I’m just p*ssed off

By Shay | November 6, 2013 | 3 Comments

“Life is what happens while you are busy making plans”- John Lennon Lately I find myself shying away from personal discussions in this space as I am no longer anonymous. Yet this space has always had a personal feel and to pretend otherwise feels disingenuous. Today I am interrupting serious discussions to talk life because sometimes you are driving down …

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How Omarosa became my shero or how I just want to be good enough

By Shay | November 2, 2013 | Comments Off on How Omarosa became my shero or how I just want to be good enough

The cultural mandate to stand in our own personal truth has reached the point where it is almost meaningless, after all who defines truth? What does it even mean to stand in our own truth? What if my truth is different than your truth? Clearly “truth” is in the eye of the beholder; yet sometimes you hear someone sharing their …

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Pain and discomfort aren’t always bad…why talking race is a must

By Shay | October 29, 2013 | 2 Comments

One of the challenges inherent in discussing matters of race often, is that either people lose interest or if they know you personally you soon start noticing a pattern where you are no longer on the invite list. Worse yet people question your motives and see such dialogue as divisive. After all can’t we just all get along and see …

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Why Blackface just won’t go away

By Shay | October 28, 2013 | 2 Comments

It seems this weekend while I was busy learning the fine art of how to become a yoga teacher, the social media world was ablaze with a viral Blackface problem. I wish I could say that I am shocked but I am not. Last year when my now grown up kiddo was slugging away in Northern Wisconsin playing the role …

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A belt is not a belt…structural racism 2013

By Shay | October 24, 2013 | 4 Comments

Shopping while Black, the ultimate in personal humiliation whether your goal is recreational retail therapy or securing much needed items. The shopping while black experience strips you of your retail goals and your humanity as store clerks in retail establishments decide that based on the color of your skin you are a threat to the merchandise they are charged with …

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Growing up and what no one tells you or midlife is messy

By Shay | October 21, 2013 | 2 Comments

When I was a younger woman, I used to be a fan of making lists and having a plan for my life. Somehow believing that if I could reduce my life down to a neat and orderly checklist that I would stay on task and that I was actually an adult, but life often does not stay on task. It’s …

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The non-profit sector eats its own or it must be nice to be parsnip rich

By Shay | October 18, 2013 | 3 Comments

Sixteen years ago, I jumped into the non-profit sector with the type of wide eye idealism and hope that often brings people to the sector. A chance to make a difference in the world in a meaningful way. Whether it’s working with an advocacy group, a shelter or a soup kitchen, the common thread that brings people into the non-profit …

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More compassion and less personal responsibility please

By Shay | October 16, 2013 | 2 Comments

In the United States, we pay a great deal of lip service to the concept of personal responsibility, often seeing personal responsibility as a one way street that puts a great deal of pressure on one party without seeing that all beings are interconnected in this journey called life. More so the American belief in the myth of personal responsibility …

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Critique and activism: People getting prickly about No Kings

By Shay | March 27, 2026

As the United States prepares for another No Kings Rally on March 28, emotions online are running high as seasoned organizers—many of them Black and Brown folks—express hesitation that another national rally will do much to move the needle on our current conditions in the United States. In turn, many white-bodied people are feeling prickly …

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Critique and activism: People getting prickly about No Kings

By Shay | March 27, 2026

As the United States prepares for another No Kings Rally on March 28, emotions online are running high as seasoned organizers—many of them Black and Brown folks—express hesitation that another national rally will do much to move the needle on our current conditions in the United States. In turn, many white-bodied people are feeling prickly …

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By Shay | May 29, 2022

Happy Friday! It’s a gorgeous day up in my corner of the world and way too beautiful to be writing a blog post today. So I present you with the Friday Round-Up a list of blog posts this week from other bloggers that blew my mind. Perhaps if you need to kill some time or have a quiet moment you can check them out. http://ravingblacklunatic.blogspot.com/ Check out this cat, I have been a fan of his work forever. http://www.whataboutourdaughters.com/ Good stuff here as well http://sweetersalt.com/ A Maine blogger who talks fashion and food…the best of both worlds http://paganchild-starmommy.blogspot.com/2011/03/keeping-focused.html A new blog that offers words of wisdom for all of us. http://mscleaver.com/ Another Mainer who for Lent is giving up pants, she is also a crafty gal If you have any links to good blogs, feel free to leave em. It’s my hope to make the Friday Round Up a regular feature at my new home specifically I would live to shine some light and love on smaller bloggers. It’s hard out here in this blogosphere with so many good blogs to choose from and so little time so let’s help everyone get a slice of the pie. I will be back on Monday, at that time I will unveil some ideas I have around monetizing things but You May Also Like: No related posts.

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