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When justice is immediate: A riverfront rumble

By Shay | August 8, 2023 | 1 Comment

Despite the last decade being the era of Black Lives Matter, the reality is that Black pain and death have become normalized to the point of almost being entertainment, thanks to social media. How often have we scrolled past videos of Black people being killed by law enforcement or vigilante white people? How often have we seen videos of Black …

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An anti-racist midlife crisis

By Shay | July 29, 2023 | Comments Off on An anti-racist midlife crisis

Last year, when I met a man almost 11 years younger than me—whom I fell in love with—I took to joking that our relationship was my “midlife crisis.” After all, it fit the stereotype of a divorced middle-aged woman—just one of those “cougars.” I would later realize that he was definitely not my midlife crisis. If anything, he was and …

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A Black woman lied and…?

By Shay | July 21, 2023 | Comments Off on A Black woman lied and…?

In recent years, thanks to social media and the political climate in America, we have created an image of Black women as saviors—Black women who stand up for democracy and save us from our worst selves. Women like Stacy Abrams and many other organizers throughout the South stand out as one of the most recent examples. This image of Black …

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When they stare

By Shay | July 12, 2023 | Comments Off on When they stare

Being marginalized and ignored in society is terrible. But the irony is how much attention can sometimes be focused on various people—Black people among them—whom people otherwise ignore. I mean I know what it’s all about. Homophobic conservatives don’t want to see LGBTQ+ people living life in any way or being happy. A whole heaping crap-ton of white people can’t …

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The whitening of social media

By Shay | July 8, 2023 | Comments Off on The whitening of social media

The U.S. Supreme Court isn’t the only place we have lately been seeing insidious forces working on an aggressive “Take Back America Plan” that puts white supremacy and other oppressive systems back in the driver’s seat. Most obviously right now, we have the court doing away with affirmative action in higher education, legalizing discrimination against the LGBTQ community and, of …

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Rolling us back: Beyond the outrage

By Shay | June 30, 2023 | Comments Off on Rolling us back: Beyond the outrage

It is no longer hyperbole to say that the United States Supreme Court is marching us closer to the return of yesteryear. A time that many of us have only heard about from older relatives or read about—definitely not the “good old days” for most people. Last year around this time, the court reversed Roe v. Wade, which ended the …

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The sea claims them for their hubris, and still we worship them because of their wealth

By Shay | June 24, 2023 | Comments Off on The sea claims them for their hubris, and still we worship them because of their wealth

Unless you were away from social media and television for a while and just got back—or you have a supernatural ability to avoid trending news—you know that the story of the week involved five people lost deep under the ocean surface. Five very rich men who decided to explore the wreckage of the Titanic in a submersible vessel of dubious …

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The whitewashing of Juneteenth…Why?

By Shay | June 11, 2023 | Comments Off on The whitewashing of Juneteenth…Why?

During our summer of racial unrest, back when folks were clearly scared that the angry Black masses were going to burn down the world, President Biden—in what increasingly feels like an attempt to both pander to and appease Black folks—decided to make Juneteenth a federal holiday.  I’m sure this seemed like a great idea at the time. In theory, a …

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Yeah, it’s ok to be white but…and it’s a big BUT

By Shay | June 6, 2023 | 3 Comments

The so-called great racial awakening of 2020 is the gift that keeps on giving—unfortunately, it’s a gift that was questionable at the outset. Now, as the years have rolled on, that gift has alternately been useless or downright harmful for anyone truly concerned with racial justice or in need of such justice. For many white people, the declaration that “Black …

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Is DEI work effective? Is the tide truly turning?

By Shay | May 30, 2023 | 1 Comment

Lately I find myself wondering if much of the anti-racism work of the last several years has done more harm than good. Admittedly, as the executive director of one of the oldest anti-racism organizations in the United States and as a longtime anti-racist writer and speaker, it may seem strange to hear me say that. But I admit that I …

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Change starts with connection: Unplug a little and find hope

By Shay | April 21, 2024

Back in 2019, I spoke at a conference at Illinois State University in Normal. Illinois is my home state, but Normal is not really a place Chicagoans flock to unless it is related to the university. The town is only two hours away from Chicago, but it bears no resemblance to Chicago. It is a …

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Change starts with connection: Unplug a little and find hope

By Shay | April 21, 2024

Back in 2019, I spoke at a conference at Illinois State University in Normal. Illinois is my home state, but Normal is not really a place Chicagoans flock to unless it is related to the university. The town is only two hours away from Chicago, but it bears no resemblance to Chicago. It is a …

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By Shay | May 29, 2022

Happy Friday! It’s a gorgeous day up in my corner of the world and way too beautiful to be writing a blog post today. So I present you with the Friday Round-Up a list of blog posts this week from other bloggers that blew my mind. Perhaps if you need to kill some time or have a quiet moment you can check them out. http://ravingblacklunatic.blogspot.com/ Check out this cat, I have been a fan of his work forever. http://www.whataboutourdaughters.com/ Good stuff here as well http://sweetersalt.com/ A Maine blogger who talks fashion and food…the best of both worlds http://paganchild-starmommy.blogspot.com/2011/03/keeping-focused.html A new blog that offers words of wisdom for all of us. http://mscleaver.com/ Another Mainer who for Lent is giving up pants, she is also a crafty gal If you have any links to good blogs, feel free to leave em. It’s my hope to make the Friday Round Up a regular feature at my new home specifically I would live to shine some light and love on smaller bloggers. It’s hard out here in this blogosphere with so many good blogs to choose from and so little time so let’s help everyone get a slice of the pie. I will be back on Monday, at that time I will unveil some ideas I have around monetizing things but You May Also Like: No related posts.

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