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Y’all ain’t ready for realness—Feeling while Black

By Shay | March 17, 2023 | 1 Comment

There is a certain irony in starting a blog as a way to express my feelings but also having the blog become so well-known that I start to censor myself (so as to not create undue tensions in other parts of my life). No longer are my thoughts anonymous and, well, that has its ups and downs.  As a result, …

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The dehumanizing effect of dominant culture

By Shay | March 8, 2023 | Comments Off on The dehumanizing effect of dominant culture

In the years since the Great Racial Awakening of 2020, the number of white-bodied folks who can spot dog whistles and give a general overview of white supremacist culture has grown. Recently, I saw this in action when a rabid racist or two showed up on an Instagram post I made, where I lamented the troubling nature of this most …

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Calling All White People, Part 61: Hey, Dickbert! I see you…

By Average White Guy | March 5, 2023 | Comments Off on Calling All White People, Part 61: Hey, Dickbert! I see you…

TODAY’S EPISODE: That poor, poor, oppressed comic strip creator Like most of Gen X—and probably a large chunk of the Millennial generation as well—I spent my formative teen and young adult years consuming comic strips. Whether in the newspaper or in bound collections or photocopies taped or pinned to walls or…eventually…on the internet. Some were just fun humor. Some were …

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Living my values—a change of heart

By Shay | February 27, 2023 | 1 Comment

Last year, I made an announcement that changes were in the works for Black Girl in Maine Media. Namely, that after offering my writing free of charge since 2008, I was planning on putting the bulk of my work behind a paywall on Patreon. It is the direction that most writers and bloggers have taken, given that it’s virtually impossible …

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Why Black folks die so young: Sometimes it’s all about the cash

By Shay | February 25, 2023 | Comments Off on Why Black folks die so young: Sometimes it’s all about the cash

My critics—and those who just plain dislike me—often accuse me of being “obsessed with race.” The truth is that they are both right and wrong. You see, racism factors into our lives on a daily level, in both macro and micro ways. Also, most people confuse personal prejudice for racism and don’t know the difference. I wish race didn’t matter …

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My problem with Black History Month

By Samuel James | February 22, 2023 | Comments Off on My problem with Black History Month

I’ve always wanted to like Black History Month. I really have. I still want to. I really do. Really. But all it does is remind me of whiteness. I know it’s supposed to do the other thing, but for me it can’t. The reason is not because my history is somehow supposed to be relegated to a single month, though …

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Where did the allies go? Or, the DEI rollback

By Shay | February 17, 2023 | Comments Off on Where did the allies go? Or, the DEI rollback

Back to the not-so-good old days… For over a year now, I have taken notice of the gradually shifting anti-racism and diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) landscape. I don’t know exactly when things shifted but it was subtle—well, at least until it wasn’t anymore. I occupy a rather unique space in this landscape. I am an anti-racist writer and speaker, …

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Calling All White People, Part 60: Misunderstood white men

By Average White Guy | February 11, 2023 | Comments Off on Calling All White People, Part 60: Misunderstood white men

TODAY’S EPISODE: The challenge of being a modern white man One of the great burdens of the 21st century is carrying the massive weight of being a white man. The strain of carrying all that responsibility and enduring so much misunderstanding and ridicule. The huge…um…crushing…uh… Bwah ha hah ha ha ha. Sorry, I tried. I really tried to keep a …

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Racists and allies: Strange bedfellows

By Shay | February 5, 2023 | 3 Comments

We are living in strange times—a time where very few people are willing to stand on their beliefs. Instead, equivocation is what’s hot in the streets, even when it comes to being anti-racist or even naming racism. Apparently, words no longer have meaning, or maybe it’s just the natural consequence of the watering down of our educational systems and the …

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The cognitive dissonance of Black History Month

By Shay | February 4, 2023 | Comments Off on The cognitive dissonance of Black History Month

Entering Black History Month this year, the words that come to mind are cognitive dissonance. On the surface, it appears as if Black people in the United States have come a long way. We had a Black president, our current vice president is Black—hell, she’s an HBCU grad and a member of one of the oldest Black sororities. Progressive white …

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Critique and activism: People getting prickly about No Kings

By Shay | March 27, 2026

As the United States prepares for another No Kings Rally on March 28, emotions online are running high as seasoned organizers—many of them Black and Brown folks—express hesitation that another national rally will do much to move the needle on our current conditions in the United States. In turn, many white-bodied people are feeling prickly …

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Critique and activism: People getting prickly about No Kings

By Shay | March 27, 2026

As the United States prepares for another No Kings Rally on March 28, emotions online are running high as seasoned organizers—many of them Black and Brown folks—express hesitation that another national rally will do much to move the needle on our current conditions in the United States. In turn, many white-bodied people are feeling prickly …

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By Shay | May 29, 2022

Happy Friday! It’s a gorgeous day up in my corner of the world and way too beautiful to be writing a blog post today. So I present you with the Friday Round-Up a list of blog posts this week from other bloggers that blew my mind. Perhaps if you need to kill some time or have a quiet moment you can check them out. http://ravingblacklunatic.blogspot.com/ Check out this cat, I have been a fan of his work forever. http://www.whataboutourdaughters.com/ Good stuff here as well http://sweetersalt.com/ A Maine blogger who talks fashion and food…the best of both worlds http://paganchild-starmommy.blogspot.com/2011/03/keeping-focused.html A new blog that offers words of wisdom for all of us. http://mscleaver.com/ Another Mainer who for Lent is giving up pants, she is also a crafty gal If you have any links to good blogs, feel free to leave em. It’s my hope to make the Friday Round Up a regular feature at my new home specifically I would live to shine some light and love on smaller bloggers. It’s hard out here in this blogosphere with so many good blogs to choose from and so little time so let’s help everyone get a slice of the pie. I will be back on Monday, at that time I will unveil some ideas I have around monetizing things but You May Also Like: No related posts.

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