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By Shay | December 29, 2012 | 3 Comments

It’s a lazy and snowy Saturday here in my corner of the world. Saturdays in BGIM land are for visits to the Farmer’s Market, where we shop for food and treats for the week ahead. On a whim, I whipped out my phone and took a few pictures, enjoy!   You May Also Like: No related posts.

Decency, who decides? Thoughts on 1 man, 10 ladies and 11 kids

By Shay | December 29, 2012 | 4 Comments

Very few people realize that I am a preacher’s kid otherwise known as a PK. Jokes and stereotypes abound about PK’s and there probably is a bit of truth in them. The funny thing is my Dad spent most of my childhood spiritually searching, but never really straying far from his Southern Baptist roots. Often in his searching’s (yeah, I …

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Happy Festivus

By Shay | December 23, 2012 | 1 Comment

Every year I am inspired to celebrate Festivus because frankly while I love to celebrate the birth of Jesus, all the other aspects of Christmas annoy me. Sadly no one in my clan will play along with me. So, I get no opportunity to air my grievances and while I thought about writing a public “airing of the grievances” I …

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The gift of holding the space

By Shay | December 23, 2012 | Comments Off on The gift of holding the space

  A few days ago, a fellow writer that I have nothing but the greatest respect for was having a bad day. My natural inclination as a “helper” and problem solver is to try to “help” but I quickly realized that not all problems need to be fixed. Sometimes when people are venting, they just need to let it out …

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On money and shame

By Shay | December 20, 2012 | 10 Comments

Hello, my name is BGIM and I am a recovering spend-a-holic. There I said it and I mean that in all honesty. Over the years in this space I have shared a bit about my financial stresses and the reality is that more than half of those stresses were due to my lack of control and planning. Sure, we got …

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Blah, blah, blah…just another day in BGIM land

By Shay | December 19, 2012 | Comments Off on Blah, blah, blah…just another day in BGIM land

I think it might be time to take a break at least for one post about current events instead I am just working through some personal disappointments and having one of those days when to be frank, this being an adult gig sucks. It’s funny how we try to teach our kids about dealing with life but then we have …

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It is not about you! A rant…a large rant

By Shay | December 18, 2012 | 7 Comments

I woke up this morning to a painful email about this post, one so painful that I have been weighing whether or not I should take this post down. Occasionally as a writer, I fail. My words are not received in the spirit which they were intended and cause pain to a reader. I live my life with a “do …

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Discomfort is a good thing

By Shay | December 17, 2012 | 1 Comment

“I went to high school at Danbury High School and I worked at Danbury Hospital for five years. Needless to say, I’m a little shaken by what has happened so close to that city today. I’m at a loss for words, there is no understanding the mental instability that leads someone to kill anyone, much less children. The only thing …

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No words….

By Shay | December 14, 2012 | 1 Comment

My heart is heavy both as a human and a mother as I think about the tragedy in Newtown, CT. This is not the time for words, but for some reason this song was on my mind this morning. Blessings to all affected by this tragedy and the world. You May Also Like: No related posts.

Oh my! A crush and it isn’t mine

By Shay | December 14, 2012 | 4 Comments

I grew up in a rather rigid and fairly authoritarian household. While my mother would eventually became my dearest friend that transition didn’t happen until after I had reached adulthood and had left the house. In my family, my dad was the boss and we all knew it. My father was one of sixteen kids born to sharecroppers in rural …

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Critique and activism: People getting prickly about No Kings

By Shay | March 27, 2026

As the United States prepares for another No Kings Rally on March 28, emotions online are running high as seasoned organizers—many of them Black and Brown folks—express hesitation that another national rally will do much to move the needle on our current conditions in the United States. In turn, many white-bodied people are feeling prickly …

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Critique and activism: People getting prickly about No Kings

By Shay | March 27, 2026

As the United States prepares for another No Kings Rally on March 28, emotions online are running high as seasoned organizers—many of them Black and Brown folks—express hesitation that another national rally will do much to move the needle on our current conditions in the United States. In turn, many white-bodied people are feeling prickly …

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By Shay | May 29, 2022

Happy Friday! It’s a gorgeous day up in my corner of the world and way too beautiful to be writing a blog post today. So I present you with the Friday Round-Up a list of blog posts this week from other bloggers that blew my mind. Perhaps if you need to kill some time or have a quiet moment you can check them out. http://ravingblacklunatic.blogspot.com/ Check out this cat, I have been a fan of his work forever. http://www.whataboutourdaughters.com/ Good stuff here as well http://sweetersalt.com/ A Maine blogger who talks fashion and food…the best of both worlds http://paganchild-starmommy.blogspot.com/2011/03/keeping-focused.html A new blog that offers words of wisdom for all of us. http://mscleaver.com/ Another Mainer who for Lent is giving up pants, she is also a crafty gal If you have any links to good blogs, feel free to leave em. It’s my hope to make the Friday Round Up a regular feature at my new home specifically I would live to shine some light and love on smaller bloggers. It’s hard out here in this blogosphere with so many good blogs to choose from and so little time so let’s help everyone get a slice of the pie. I will be back on Monday, at that time I will unveil some ideas I have around monetizing things but You May Also Like: No related posts.

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