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When my truth hurts others…the downside of radical honesty

By Shay | February 15, 2013 | 12 Comments

This year has barely started and already it has been packed full of excitement, most of which if I had my way would cease to be…but do I really get a say? Of course not! In the midst of dealing with my father’s health issues, it seems I passed a milestone (actually a few, including my eldest turning 21…yikes!). Last …

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Musings on Love on the day of Love

By Shay | February 14, 2013 | 1 Comment

When I was a younger woman, I had all sorts of notions about love. The funny thing about preconceived ideas is that life has a funny way of making mincemeat of all our lofty thoughts on such matters. Today is Valentine’s Day; a day that in modern time is about showing our love for that special person. Or a day …

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Busy Wednesday

By Shay | February 13, 2013 | Comments Off on Busy Wednesday

My mind is always swirling with things to write about, sadly it seems that 24 hour days are just not long enough. I demand that the days grow longer to better accommodate me. Of course that isn’t going to happen. So for today I will share a clip from a recent piece I did on Maine’s NPR affiliate, MPBN. You …

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How not to have a Black friend

By Shay | February 11, 2013 | 13 Comments

Cross cultural relationships can be a wonderful thing; hell I think they are so wonderful that I married a white guy! Honestly though, there are times when cross cultural relationships can be landmines where one party says or does something that is so outrageous that frankly it endangers the relationship. In honor of Black History Month and a speaking engagement …

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The gift of inconvenience

By Shay | February 9, 2013 | Comments Off on The gift of inconvenience

Chances are if you live in New England, this weekend’s storm aka Nemo has put the brakes on any and all plans that you may have had for this weekend. If you are like most people including yours truly, the idea of having your plans interrupted because of an inconveniently timed storm tends to create a bit of angst and …

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A little bit of this and a little bit of that

By Shay | February 8, 2013 | 2 Comments

My last post was a bit heavy; looking back it might not have been the best idea to share that in such an open space but one thing I strive for in this space is honesty. Life is messy, and at times, gravely complex. This week was the first week since learning that my father was facing significant health issues …

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Dear Universe, sit down and talk to me now!!

By Shay | February 7, 2013 | 7 Comments

Dear Universe,   Please come and have a seat…now! I know you are busy and all but I have a few things that I need to get off of my chest before I grab a meat cleaver and start chopping away at someone. So please, have a cup of tea, and let’s talk. Ok, I lied, I am the one …

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Bandanas and Blackness at the Gym….A Very Bad Mix

By Shay | February 5, 2013 | 8 Comments

When you write a blog called Black Girl in Maine, I guess it’s no surprise that at a certain point, people remember you when shady racial incidents go down in the state of Maine.  A local reader of both my columns and this space contacted me today to ask if I had heard about what had happened to a local …

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Black History Month and the Lies We Tell

By Shay | February 2, 2013 | 8 Comments

It’s Black History Month here in the US, that time of year where we supposedly honor the contributions of Black Americans to this great nation of ours by giving Black folks their very own special month… all 28 days. Oh, Black History Month is a glorious time, where we lift up the acceptable and safe Black folks such as Rosa …

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Don’t tug on superwoman’s cape

By Shay | February 1, 2013 | 3 Comments

I knew it was only a matter of time; I have been going harder and harder, struggling to keep the balls in the air and keep my cape from getting twisted. Yet despite my efforts, I woke up to a hard crash this morning, me breaking down in tears before I even had my first cup of coffee. Let me …

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Critique and activism: People getting prickly about No Kings

By Shay | March 27, 2026

As the United States prepares for another No Kings Rally on March 28, emotions online are running high as seasoned organizers—many of them Black and Brown folks—express hesitation that another national rally will do much to move the needle on our current conditions in the United States. In turn, many white-bodied people are feeling prickly …

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Critique and activism: People getting prickly about No Kings

By Shay | March 27, 2026

As the United States prepares for another No Kings Rally on March 28, emotions online are running high as seasoned organizers—many of them Black and Brown folks—express hesitation that another national rally will do much to move the needle on our current conditions in the United States. In turn, many white-bodied people are feeling prickly …

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By Shay | May 29, 2022

Happy Friday! It’s a gorgeous day up in my corner of the world and way too beautiful to be writing a blog post today. So I present you with the Friday Round-Up a list of blog posts this week from other bloggers that blew my mind. Perhaps if you need to kill some time or have a quiet moment you can check them out. http://ravingblacklunatic.blogspot.com/ Check out this cat, I have been a fan of his work forever. http://www.whataboutourdaughters.com/ Good stuff here as well http://sweetersalt.com/ A Maine blogger who talks fashion and food…the best of both worlds http://paganchild-starmommy.blogspot.com/2011/03/keeping-focused.html A new blog that offers words of wisdom for all of us. http://mscleaver.com/ Another Mainer who for Lent is giving up pants, she is also a crafty gal If you have any links to good blogs, feel free to leave em. It’s my hope to make the Friday Round Up a regular feature at my new home specifically I would live to shine some light and love on smaller bloggers. It’s hard out here in this blogosphere with so many good blogs to choose from and so little time so let’s help everyone get a slice of the pie. I will be back on Monday, at that time I will unveil some ideas I have around monetizing things but You May Also Like: No related posts.

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