Look, me and the Royal Family go way back. Sorta. Let’s just say that they’ve occupied space in my mind for a long time.
My earliest memories of the Royals? Watching Princess Diana and Prince Charles getting married. I was a little kid—maybe 9 or 10—and, like millions of others, I was mesmerized by the sheer pageantry of it all. I also remember looking fondly at the service and wondering what it would be like when I grew up. Could I, too, one day be a beautiful princess and marry a prince? (Admittedly, even as a young child, I remember thinking this particular prince wasn’t too good-looking; definitely no Disney version).
Fast-forward to my teen years, and starting my journey to embracing my blackness—and realizing that the Royal Family represented the people who essentially had carved up and conquered the world and created horrendous suffering for large portions of the world through colonization and imperialism. At that point, my dreams of becoming a princess were no more. Girls like me didn’t become the princess and furthermore, why did I want to be a part of a group that represented global evil?
In my 20s, while I was no longer enamored by the Royal Family, I still had a soft spot for Princess Diana, who seemed like the only humanizing force among the Royals. I remember when the news of her death broke. At that point, I was also a mother, and I still remember the haunting walk that her sons had to take behind the carriage carrying their mother’s body. I remember thinking how utterly awful that those boys had lost their mother but still had to perform their duties.
I pretty much lost all interest in the Royal Family at that point, until Prince Harry got involved with Megan Markle, and the media wasted no time letting us know that she had a Black mama. I can’t imagine marrying into a family that represents the worst parts of humanity. But love is funny—you fall in love and life happens. Megan is fascinating to me, a biracial Black woman who married into perhaps the whitest and most privileged family on the planet, who in marrying into the Royal Family has been forced to confront her blackness in the most painful and public manner.
That said, Prince Harry, who in his youth engaged in questionable racist behavior, seems to have undergone a shift. And from what we are told—because, really, we don’t know these people—he seems to have become a stand-up man who literally is riding and dying for his wife and, in recent years, has become the poster boy for anti-racism remedial-level classes.
Now we are in this current moment, and Queen Elizabeth has died. The world. or at least the media construct of the world. is fascinated once more with all things royal. After all, Prince Charles, after waiting 70+ years, has finally ascended to the position of king in the wake of his mum’s death. That’s a long time to wait for them to come up.
As the world adjusts to King Charles, the grieving begins, and in typical fashion of white supremacist culture, people only want to hear the things they want to hear. In other words, don’t rock the boat.
But we are living in a world now where everyone with access to the internet gets to have a say and a voice thanks to social media. Which has meant that while mainstream media is pushing one vision of the queen and her reign, social media has allowed people across the globe to weigh in—and those from countries that were colonized by the British are wasting no time speaking truth to power.
Black Twitter and Black TikTok across the global diaspora wasted no time in saying they as a collective didn’t give two shits about the queen dying. Our brothers and sisters from India and other countries joined in, as did many Irish people.
Jeff Bezos, the founder of Amazon and one of the richest humans on the planet, decided to jump into the fray when he criticized a Black professor from Carnegie Mellon University. You see, Dr. Uju Anya, a Black woman from a colonized country, had wished the queen an excruciating death. Mind you, the queen was already dying.
Social media has been on fire with white people globally not understanding why so many people would speak ill of a 96-year-old woman who had just died.
Look, the British Empire did great harm in the world, harm that disproportionately landed on Black and brown people (yes, I’m aware of the Irish, but that’s not the conversation I’m having). Disrupting whiteness means recognizing that many if not most of our cultural norms were designed to benefit white-bodied people—including this notion that it’s disrespectful to speak ill of a dead woman.
Furthermore, people keep trying to separate the institution of the British Empire from the queen as a person, but that’s not how it works. The queen herself during the decades of her reign made decisions that harmed people. She is a direct representative of a system. In other words until her death, she was the global face of a colonizer.
She had choices. She could have bucked that system, she could have made amends, she could have apologized on behalf of the system/institution she represented. She chose none of that. Instead, she conformed and—in comforting—was complicit. So, any criticisms of her in death are justified.
Disturbing to me has been the number of white-bodied people I know who are posting that now is not the time to criticize the Royal Family. I’m sorry, but with the changing of the guard, this is a perfect time. I doubt King Chuck is going to shake the joint up, but in ascending to the position of king, he is now the official face of global colonizers. With great responsibility comes great heat.
Seriously, how can we be anti-racist if we continue to uphold white supremacist cultural norms? We can’t. We are two-faced liars, who are lying to ourselves. The path to dismantling white supremacy is to live our values, in all situations. Including when old white ladies die.
Trust me, Liz is dead and we aren’t hurting her feelings, but maybe we are planting seeds with others. Discomfort is often a great catalyst for change and self-examination. White-bodied people need to understand that Black and brown people are entitled to express their feelings and that their expression does not need to be palatable to white folks. Instead, it is incumbent upon white people to move beyond their fragility that gets them in their feelings when a little old lady they never met is criticized.
Instead of saying now is not the time, ask why this is happening—if you don’t have a working understanding of colonization and its horrific impacts that echo into today. Furthermore, learn why understanding colonization and imperialism is fundamental to today’s world and anti-racism work.
As for the Royals, no doubt they are busted up over the queen’s death. After all, she was their beloved mom/granny/queen. But Elizabeth lived a far better life than any of us ever will. She made it to 96, living the life of Riley with the stolen labor and jewels of generations of Black and brown folks globally. Her death isn’t about to bankrupt her family and I suspect even Megan will come out okay, even if the incessant portrayal of her is awful. For the rest of us, we need to let go of the fairytales and, in the United States, ask ourselves why we are so vested in these people or that system.
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3 thoughts on “The Queen died—screw decorum and niceness”
Charles was born when I was a college freshman. My psychology professor was horrified because he would never be able to lead a normal life but would instead have to follow a course already determined which he goose-stepped would have to follow. I and my classmates thought that he, however, had a very good deal. Seeing the pain in his face as King Charles lll, I think the professor was correct.
He like his mother; the late Queen was born into this tradition with the Queen taking her place only because the heir to be – King Edward – bolted from it. This tradition has been tweaked so that those that hold the modern-day Crown are figureheads and cannot make public policy decisions that directly impact the British public.
They can become a face of stability and this was the genius of the late Queen. Rather than bolting like her uncle, her decision was to assume that role as was her fathers, King George. In her 70 years of rein, she however did “apologize on behalf of the system/institution she represented.” And to say otherwise is unfair to her.
An example of this was most recently seen in her historical visit to the Irish Republic , May 19, 2011. According to the BBC, “ The Queen has offered her “sincere thoughts and deep sympathy” to the victims of Ireland and the UK’s troubled past. At a banquet in Dublin Castle, she said with hindsight “we can all see things which we would wish had been done differently or not at all. It is a sad and regrettable reality that through history our islands have experienced more than their fair share of heartache, turbulence and loss. These events have touched us all, many of us personally, and are a painful legacy. We can never forget those who have died or been injured, and their families. To all those who have suffered as a consequence of our troubled past I extend my sincere thoughts and deep sympathy.
She added: “With the benefit of historical hindsight we can all see things which we would wish had been done differently or not at all.”
An apology was not expected, BBC royal correspondent Nicholas Witch ell said, but the Queen came “pretty close”. Nicholas Witchell said there was an “underlying sentiment of sorrow and regret” in the language of the speech, which was “a powerful expression, a personal expression by the Queen” and “a wish, finally to turn a page”. Source https://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-13447236
Very poignant, she even apologized in behalf of others, that is the Boston Puritans in the face of Governor William Shirley who forced the Acadians out of their homes doing the great upheaval in the 1770’s. While this was implemented without the approval of England and the English parliament, the late Queen nevertheless in her statement, offered that apology that the Boston based puritan faction and their descendants still have not.
According to a very recent story written by William Taylor Potter, September 8, 2022, in the Daily Advertiser, Louisiana, “ Queen Elizabeth offered closure to Acadian descendants”.
“ More than two-and-a-half centuries after the deportation, it was Queen Elizabeth II who issued an official apology for her country’s actions. The proclamation, issued in 2003, acknowledged the “trials and suffering experienced by the Acadian people during the Great Upheaval” and expressed “hope that the Acadian people can turn the page on this dark chapter of their history.” Source https://www.theadvertiser.com/story/news/2022/09/08/queen-elizabeth-ii-brought-closure-to-many-acadian-descendants/66992167007/
It was Diana’s son, Harry who ‘bolted’ as well. There is no doubt that , Meghan Merkel, the Duchess of Sussex, was embraced by the late Queen, and Meghan would have been a positive force for change in a nation that still struggles with racism. But she was not prepared for the package that came with this role, the constant media intrusion, the ‘stiff upper’ lip culture, and the covert racism that exists within the English white privilege. Afraid that his wife, like his mother would be destroyed he left – and with the Queen’s blessings and probably a degree of envy, too.
Just in case Puritan descendants and their supporters have any doubt in the role played by Governor William Shirley, I would like to share this article with them written by the then president of the Mass. Historical Society. “ A dark chapter in Mass. History”, By William Fowler | July 23, 2005
IT IS TIME for Massachusetts to recognize a great wrong. Two hundred and fifty years ago this summer, Massachusetts helped launch a brutal campaign of ”ethnic cleansing” against the Acadians of modern day New Brunswick and Nova Scotia.
In the early part of the -17th century hundreds of French peasant families migrated from France and settled in a region they called L’Acadie (modern day New Brunswick and Nova Scotia). These families diked and farmed the rich marshlands bordering the Bay of Fundy. Isolated from the principal French settlements in the Saint Lawrence River Valley, the Acadians evolved a distinct culture, one that drew heavily upon their native Micmac neighbors with whom they often intermarried.
Unfortunately for the Acadians, their homeland was contested ground as the world’s two superpowers, France and England, struggled to dominate North America. In 1713, at the end of one of the many wars fought between these two nations, France ceded Acadia to England and with it sovereignty over the native Acadians. However, customs, language, and religion divided these people from their new English rulers. In neighboring Massachusetts, ministers and politicians railed against the Acadians. Venomous attacks on the ”perfidious” French filled newspapers while from their pulpits ministers damned the ”papists.”
Behind the violent rhetoric venal land speculators, led by William Shirley, royal governor of the Massachusetts, schemed to seize Acadian lands. Nova Scotia’s lieutenant governor, Charles Lawrence, along with Jonathan Belcher, chief justice of the colony, Robert Monckton, an army officer, and John Winslow of Marshfield, an officer in the Massachusetts militia, joined Shirley and laid plans to expel the Acadians and seize their lands.
At a meeting on July 28, 1755, Lawrence ordered Monckton ”to send all the French Inhabitants out of the Province.” Monckton realized that he would have to move quickly before the Acadians discovered their fate. He turned to Winslow and the Massachusetts militia to help him.
First and foremost if you screw decorum and niceness all you have left is a bunch of self-absorbed, tantrum prone 2-year-olds. Is that the world you’d like to live in? Because we’re headed there really quickly. And before you throw all the blame on white bodied folks, don’t forget that it was black/brown-bodied people in Africa, I believe Benin, who started selling other brown/black-bodied folks as slaves. What we need to focus on, in my opinion, is getting rid of the truly bad people who seek to take advantage of anyone and everyone. And keep in mind in our striving for equality, the word “equality.” You don’t achieve this by making the perceived oppressor into the newly oppressed. That ain’t gonna to work.
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