Authenticity and cross-racial relations

Several days ago, I shared a personal insight on a social media platform. It went like this: Uncomfortable revelation after 21 years in this very white space. I am not sure white women are capable of authentic friendship. I find too many of y’all only want connection on your terms. That’s not how friendship actually …

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Racist mass shootings and anti-racist apathy

two white hands reaching out between two rows of metal posts to touch

It wasn’t that long ago that news of a white man targeting Black people and killing them—because he hated “ni**ers”—would have been newsworthy beyond the carcass of Black Twitter and anti-racism Instagram. But, as we move further away from the great racial awakening of 2020, and people settle into our new dystopian norm of great …

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When white allies cause harm

two women back to back, with the white woman looking away from the woman of color with disdain

A lack of humility almost cost me the person whom I love and the thing is, until it was brought to my attention, I had no idea that I was so deeply lacking in humility and that this state of mind was translating into questionable behaviors. In our case, I had entered into a relationship …

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