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Reevaluating our relationship…not quite breaking up with the internet

By Shay | June 19, 2013 | 6 Comments

Dear Internet and Social Media, This letter has been a long time coming, I had been putting it off but in the last couple of months, a series of events have occurred that have it made it clear I can no longer put this off. Calm down, I am not breaking up with you. Oh, I have thought about cutting …

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Black Women and Sex…oh no!

By Shay | June 17, 2013 | 3 Comments

Once upon a time, there was a young girl who met a boy, a boy who made her very happy. The girl was so happy that when the boy suggested that they get married because they were in love, despite the fact that she was only 18 and he was only 20, the girl said yes. The girl said yes …

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On Father’s and filters… Father’s Day in the 21st century

By Shay | June 16, 2013 | 3 Comments

Once upon a time in a world that no longer exists, holidays were days where we put on our happy faces and pretended all was well in the spirit of celebration. Of course now, in this brave new world of no filters, we no longer have to pretend that anything is fine because as we have evolved it has become …

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Change is a coming…one way or another

By Shay | June 15, 2013 | 1 Comment

When we are young, we have a tendency to be carefree and prone to living life on a whim and sometimes that approach to life blows up in our face. The flip side is that often as we get older and remember all the mistakes that we made when we were younger, we swear that we will never make those …

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BGIM goes running…sorta

By Shay | June 11, 2013 | 10 Comments

Last fall I went to the doctor for some seemingly small reason and learned that for the first time ever my blood pressure was elevated. It wasn’t in the danger zone and frankly I was more annoyed by the doc’s insistence that it wasn’t a “really” bad thing. Trust me, while my mother’s high blood pressure didn’t exactly kill her, …

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My hair, my head and no, you can’t ever touch it!

By Shay | June 7, 2013 | 7 Comments

It seems no matter whether we are born with straight tresses, curly tresses, blonde, red or coal black hair, hair is a loaded issue for most women regardless of race. The dance of frustration seems to start early in life as I am learning with my own almost 8 year old daughter. We want what we don’t have and what …

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Double standard…uppity, brave or truth

By Shay | June 5, 2013 | 12 Comments

Every now and then a public story will touch a nerve deep within me and I can’t let it go because it is too close to home. I realized that last night when I found myself up later than I had intended to stay up after hearing the story about the current First Lady of the United States and the …

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Shame and closets…they don’t feel good

By Shay | June 3, 2013 | 3 Comments

We live in strange times; we will talk about the most intimate details of our sexual lives with virtual strangers. We will share pictures of ourselves and our families with any and every one (I am on Instagram, so I am guilty of this myself). Yet we will avoid talking about our financial lives because well…it’s not polite, it’s tacky, …

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When truth hurts or the painful blending of the public and private self

By Shay | May 29, 2013 | 3 Comments

As a novice yogi looking to move beyond the poses (asana) and looking for the deeper connection and integration of body, mind and spirit, I have been reading The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali and studying the 8 limbs of yoga. One of those limbs is yama (moral restraint) and breaks down into  ahimsā (non-harming), satya (truthfulness), asteya (non-stealing), bramacharya (directing …

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Musings on 40…a journey

By Shay | May 26, 2013 | 2 Comments

Last week I found myself at the local walk-in clinic after hours because my back decided it just wasn’t in the mood for the physical activity that I had been subjecting it to. It turns out that I had pulled a muscle. Yet while I was at the clinic, I mentioned another issue I had been having and the nurse …

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Critique and activism: People getting prickly about No Kings

By Shay | March 27, 2026

As the United States prepares for another No Kings Rally on March 28, emotions online are running high as seasoned organizers—many of them Black and Brown folks—express hesitation that another national rally will do much to move the needle on our current conditions in the United States. In turn, many white-bodied people are feeling prickly …

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Critique and activism: People getting prickly about No Kings

By Shay | March 27, 2026

As the United States prepares for another No Kings Rally on March 28, emotions online are running high as seasoned organizers—many of them Black and Brown folks—express hesitation that another national rally will do much to move the needle on our current conditions in the United States. In turn, many white-bodied people are feeling prickly …

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By Shay | May 29, 2022

Happy Friday! It’s a gorgeous day up in my corner of the world and way too beautiful to be writing a blog post today. So I present you with the Friday Round-Up a list of blog posts this week from other bloggers that blew my mind. Perhaps if you need to kill some time or have a quiet moment you can check them out. http://ravingblacklunatic.blogspot.com/ Check out this cat, I have been a fan of his work forever. http://www.whataboutourdaughters.com/ Good stuff here as well http://sweetersalt.com/ A Maine blogger who talks fashion and food…the best of both worlds http://paganchild-starmommy.blogspot.com/2011/03/keeping-focused.html A new blog that offers words of wisdom for all of us. http://mscleaver.com/ Another Mainer who for Lent is giving up pants, she is also a crafty gal If you have any links to good blogs, feel free to leave em. It’s my hope to make the Friday Round Up a regular feature at my new home specifically I would live to shine some light and love on smaller bloggers. It’s hard out here in this blogosphere with so many good blogs to choose from and so little time so let’s help everyone get a slice of the pie. I will be back on Monday, at that time I will unveil some ideas I have around monetizing things but You May Also Like: No related posts.

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