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The almost eight year old does a book review

By Shay | July 25, 2013 | Comments Off on The almost eight year old does a book review

Ever since I first appeared on Babble’s list of top mom bloggers in 2011 and again in 2012, it has meant an inbox stuffed full of requests from public relations folk’s eager to work with a “mom” blogger. Of course 99% of these folks have never read my blog and have no idea that while I am a mom and …

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A Night with BGIM, a chance to talk

By Shay | July 22, 2013 | 10 Comments

I like to talk, I like to talk to people, and I suppose that is why after five years and absolutely not a lick of commercial success, I still enjoy writing in this space.  This space has allowed me to share my thoughts and more importantly learn from others and after five years I am ready to shake things up …

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Take a deep breath, the hard work of talking race in the US

By Shay | July 17, 2013 | 4 Comments

I think it’s safe to say that tensions are running high across the United States this week. Between the relentless heat pounding parts of the country and the verdict in the George Zimmerman trial, we are all feeling the tension and with that tension it brings hair trigger tempers. Can I suggest that we all step back and take a …

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No humanity for Black boys, musings on the Trayvon Martin case

By Shay | July 15, 2013 | 2 Comments

Kimani Gray, 16 Kendrec McDade, 19 Timothy Russell, 43 Ervin Johnson, 18 Amadou Diallo, 23 Patrick Dorsmond, 26 Ousmane Zongo, 43 Timothy Stansbury Jr., 23 Sean Bell, 23 Orlando Barlow, 28 Aaron Campbell, 25 Victor Steen, 17 Steven Eugene Washington, 27 Alonzo Ashley, 29 Wendell Allen, 20 Ronald Madison, 40 James Brisette, 17 Travares McGill, 16 Ramarley Graham, 18 Oscar …

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Who are you?

By Shay | July 12, 2013 | 22 Comments

 I am always curious about why people visit this space. I can only speculate that for some it is to see what type of nonsense I am sharing with the world on any given day. For others it’s the best way to stay in touch with me since I am over a thousand miles away from friends and family. Perhaps …

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Fast forwarding through childhood and pausing adulthood…a Mama’s rant

By Shay | July 8, 2013 | 4 Comments

A few months ago my soon to be eight year old daughter rediscovered her American Girl Doll with a vengeance. After sitting in the land dump of stuffies and dolls, Ruby was once again a part of the daily cycle of family life here in BGIM-land. Unlike a few years ago when Ruby first became a member of our household, …

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Staying in my lane…how to get out of a funk

By Shay | July 6, 2013 | 1 Comment

While I still feel a certain amount of shame over it, the truth is that I am not a very good driver. I have resigned myself to the fact that I need to avoid driving whenever possible, which is no easy feat when one lives in an area where the default is driving. A large part of my problem is …

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No, it is not surprising, it’s life for many…yeah talking race again

By Shay | July 3, 2013 | 5 Comments

Back when the Man Unit and I were still newlyweds almost sixteen years ago, we were returning from the wedding of a mutual friend and her new husband in the northwestern suburbs of Chicago. Not even 10 minutes after returning across the city line and back into Chicago, we encountered what we assumed was a drunken driving checkpoint. The Man …

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The Wild, Wild West of Race Relations

By Shay | June 29, 2013 | 9 Comments

I have to confess that whenever I write about race in this space, I feel a pang of momentary discomfort…why, you ask? Because inevitably a reader will tell me either via email or a comment that I am being sensitive, that they don’t see race, all people are equal or some variation of that sentiment. The subtle implication is that …

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Summer plans gone wrong and a Mama Bear comes out

By Shay | June 25, 2013 | 4 Comments

After almost 22 years of parenting, the only thing that I know for sure is that I know nothing. Not one iota. The one guiding principle that I have not only for myself but with both of my kids is to never doubt our instincts, trust in the wisdom and knowledge that is inherent in our spirits and always be …

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Critique and activism: People getting prickly about No Kings

By Shay | March 27, 2026

As the United States prepares for another No Kings Rally on March 28, emotions online are running high as seasoned organizers—many of them Black and Brown folks—express hesitation that another national rally will do much to move the needle on our current conditions in the United States. In turn, many white-bodied people are feeling prickly …

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Critique and activism: People getting prickly about No Kings

By Shay | March 27, 2026

As the United States prepares for another No Kings Rally on March 28, emotions online are running high as seasoned organizers—many of them Black and Brown folks—express hesitation that another national rally will do much to move the needle on our current conditions in the United States. In turn, many white-bodied people are feeling prickly …

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By Shay | May 29, 2022

Happy Friday! It’s a gorgeous day up in my corner of the world and way too beautiful to be writing a blog post today. So I present you with the Friday Round-Up a list of blog posts this week from other bloggers that blew my mind. Perhaps if you need to kill some time or have a quiet moment you can check them out. http://ravingblacklunatic.blogspot.com/ Check out this cat, I have been a fan of his work forever. http://www.whataboutourdaughters.com/ Good stuff here as well http://sweetersalt.com/ A Maine blogger who talks fashion and food…the best of both worlds http://paganchild-starmommy.blogspot.com/2011/03/keeping-focused.html A new blog that offers words of wisdom for all of us. http://mscleaver.com/ Another Mainer who for Lent is giving up pants, she is also a crafty gal If you have any links to good blogs, feel free to leave em. It’s my hope to make the Friday Round Up a regular feature at my new home specifically I would live to shine some light and love on smaller bloggers. It’s hard out here in this blogosphere with so many good blogs to choose from and so little time so let’s help everyone get a slice of the pie. I will be back on Monday, at that time I will unveil some ideas I have around monetizing things but You May Also Like: No related posts.

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