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Spiderina Witch…a review

Prior to last year, this little space had a very small readership and was virtually unknown but then I appeared on “that” list of Mom bloggers and bam! Suddenly my inbox was filled with all sorts of offers to review items and promote products and programs. Initially it was pretty exciting but after receiving items that I wouldn’t suggest to my worst enemy, I quickly realized that just because someone is offering something free is no reason to actually accept it. Then there was the rather practical issue of time, juggling a pretty intense job and family means I need to be pretty selective about what I actually choose to promote because time is money and freebies don’t pay the bills.

That said, a few weeks ago, I received an offer that I couldn’t refuse especially since saving money is the name of my game these days. My seven year old is the holiday queen, she loves em all but Halloween is her high holy day. First, there is all that candy. Candy that mommy and daddy will eventually steal and that she won’t ever eat and then there is the costume. Seven loves to dress up, she is all about the costume, actually she loves to dress up all the time, but Halloween means she can dress up and go outside.

So in BGIM land, planning of the ensemble starts early and this year was no exception, until I told her she could pick out a costume that wasn’t mom and dad made as long as she would give me her opinion on it. It was a deal that she couldn’t refuse. After spending way too much time looking through vast supply of costumes, we agreed on the Spiderina Witch costume, which you can view here.

So we placed our order and a few days ago the very nice Spiderina Witch costume arrived and Seven nearly broke her neck trying to open the package…here she is.


Seven liked it, her exact words “This is way cool” spoken in her valley girl voice.  We are adding a few homemade accoutrements and if the Frankenstorm that is predicted for the east coast doesn’t ruin Halloween, I think Seven is going to have a fabulous time in her first non-Mommy & Daddy made costume.

Seriously, this is a good site for costumes, wide array to choose from, so 2 thumbs up from BGIM and Seven.

The FTC says I must tell you that I did receive a complimentary item, but as always, my views are my own and longtime readers know I keep it 100% real.

Nope, guess I won’t be a Skinnygirl…a review

One of the more interesting benefits to blogging is that my inbox is often filled with offers from companies and PR firms looking to get the word out about their products. Truthfully due to the nature of my all-consuming day job and life in general, I tend to say no to reviewing products. It’s hard enough to fit in the work that keeps the bills paid much less offering free promotions that don’t necessarily benefit me. Yet every now and then an offer comes across my inbox that catches my attention that was the case with Skinnygirl Daily Cleanse & Restore.

Spring is here, and it’s clear that I need to get my physical self in order and I had been toying with the idea of doing some type of cleanse and just as I had that thought an offer for one came in my email. Hey, I work in the non-profit sector so I figured why the hell not, a no cost cleanse? What could be better?

I suppose I should have read up a little more before I agreed to offer up my digestive system as a guinea pig, but sometimes reading all the details isn’t my thing especially when I am multitasking. It seems that Skinnygirl is a line of lifestyle & nutrition products developed by Bethenny Frankel of Real Housewives of New York fame. I suppose if I had ever watched an episode of Real Housewives of New York her name may have stood out when I scanned the press release, but hey….

According to the Skinnygirl website, Skinnygirl Daily is “A Daily on the Go solution to promote healthy digestion, detoxification, energy, and overall wellness”. I admit that sounded pretty good, hell I am a working mom, I need all the energy I can get! So I received 5 sample packets, in the Green Lemonade flavor. I followed the directions of adding one packet to 6-8 ounces of water and since I didn’t have a fancy shaker, I stirred and stirred. Ummmm, it was green and frankly not too appetizing to look at, no problem, I figured with a lemonade flavor it would taste better than it looked. Bottoms up! I took a hearty sip and nearly vomited, not sure why this is described as green lemonade, I tasted not a hint of lemonade; frankly it tasted vile, very vile. I suspect that taste should have been the tip off of things to come. I eventually drank my whole serving and went about my day. No extra energy, all seems well.

Fast forward to the early evening hours when my stomach started cramping, let me just cut to the chase without getting to graphic and say that it cleaned me out all right. I spent a good chunk of the evening being intimate with my porcelain throne. I wasn’t quite expecting that and maybe it’s because I tend to have a lot of fiber in my diet naturally but all I will say is I spent the next 24 hours frankly feeling bad. I decided to repeat this experiment with a second packet and had the same results, no added energy, but a lot of time emptying myself out. In some ways in reminded me of over the counter products used to deal with constipation, harsh and uncomfortable.

I wanted to like this product especially after I finally did get around to looking at the Skinny Girls website and later on discovered there is even a Skinny Girl line of cocktails; I had thought maybe I could become a skinny girl once again using Skinny Girl products. Sad to say I was a slightly fluffy girl with a jumpy stomach for several days after using Skinnygirl Daily Cleanse & Restore, so it looks like my relationship with Skinnygirl is over.

Disclosure: In keeping with FTC rules, while I was not paid for this post, I did receive free samples to review.

Resurrection, transformation and oh yeah sex!

It’s Easter Sunday and as a practicing Christian (yep, yogi’s can be Christian too) who heads a faith based agency; one might expect me to blog about the day. Of course being me, why ever would I do that? I always march to my own drum regardless of what day it is. Instead last night as I was headed to bed, I realized it’s been a while since I wrote anything racy, so why not pick today? Resurrection, transformation and oh…sex.

Seriously though all jokes aside, I have noticed something both in my offline and online life, people especially women (not all but enough) tend to get squeamish when talk turns to sex. I mean it’s 2012 and we all like to consider ourselves enlightened and many of us will now even we say we are sex positive but considering how many of us refuse to utter anything more than vagina (hello it’s not just a vagina, it has parts!) and heaven forbid talk turns to things like adult sex toys, we start blushing like crazy. Yet we are sexual beings, hell if you have kids chances are you stripped down to your birthday suit and did the horizontal mambo, so why the discomfort?

I think ultimately the reason we are uncomfortable truly acknowledging and embracing our sexual selves is fear of judgment. Old societal messages say a woman who enjoys sex is “bad” and despite attempts to dismantle such thinking for many of us those messages are deep at our core. It’s why despite the increase or at least increased media attention to things such as open marriages or polyamory, most of us when we hear of people participating in such relationships, still raise our eyebrows in shock.

Old messages about what is proper for a woman create situations where women struggle to own their sexual identity instead hiding it. If you call yourself sex positive but struggle with the idea of walking into a store to buy yourself a toy or two, you might not quite be sex positive, since according to the Center for Sex Positive Culture: The sex-positive movement is a social and philosophical movement that regards all consensual sexual activities as fundamentally healthy and pleasurable, and encourages sexual pleasure and experimentation.”  Sure it’s entirely possible you have a partner that sexually rocks your world every single day and maybe you truly have no need for anything extra, but considering what stats say about female orgasms, chances are a little help from a friend every now and there is no shame in that. Hell, men embrace those little pills that keep em going like the Energizer Bunny.

I admit as a woman and mother I truly look forward to a day when women will be comfortable declaring themselves heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual and even pansexual without any fear of judgment or backlash. Until such time, we can start taking baby steps and places like EdenFantasys is a great place to test the waters from the comfort of our homes. Life is too short to be anything other than who you are in all your amazing being!

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Almost V-day…be sexy for you!

Tis the season for love and romance with Valentine’s Day just mere days away, are you ready? If you are anything like me, past a certain age Valentine’s Day does absolutely not a thing for you. I mean can’t you let me know you love me all the time? Why do we need a “special” day to share that love? Let’s just love each other all the time, though I will say I do appreciate the chocolate covered strawberries that are available on Valentine’s Day.

Seriously though, after the early dating years and first few years of marriage, I told the partner man to not worry about V-Day.  That said I am all about ways to feel sexy and attractive just for the hell of it. When I was younger and not carting around a few extra pounds, a saggy belly and less than perky twins, sexy was more external, sexy meant a sleek outfit and heels. I am in a different place in my life now, for starters, heels make my feet hurt, and if I want to look sleek I need either a corset or my nemesis otherwise known as Spanx. No, sexy at this stage in my life starts with me and is less about being sexy to anyone other than me. Granted a sexy state of mind will generally radiate outward regardless of what one is wearing. We all know that gal who is sexy and we can’t figure it out. She is walking around in old Danskos and faded yoga pants but something about her makes us want to have a girl crush on her.

So while a positive state of mind can lead to sexy, there are a few other things I like to use when I want to be sexy. Remember learning about kegels when you were pregnant? If you were anything like me, you probably learned about kegels and promptly forgot about them too. Of course a few years after the kiddos arrival you find yourself wishing you had paid attention and learned those kegels. Well, have no fear, it’s not too late.  You can tighten up below and add a little spark in your daily walking around by using ben wa balls or even jade eggs. EdenFantasys, my favorite place when I am in the need of some adult toys for my personal toy box carries ben wa balls.  The beauty of ben wa balls is you can strengthen your vaginal muscles and make yourself smile; if you are feeling really bold, you can head out for the day with ben wa balls in place and leave everyone wondering why you have a big smile on your face. Kids making a mess, no worries!

I admit this probably sounds racy or even a tad strange, but seriously stuff like this which I do strictly for myself, makes me feel good and when I am feeling good, damn it, I am sexy. So sure maybe you want to do something for that special someone in your life on Valentine’s Day but how about doing something for you?

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Wear many hats…it’s okay to be a sexual being

Someone recently chided me for making it seem as if only parents have uber busy lives that require juggling. It’s true; everyone has busy and complex lives that require a constant juggling act to keep all the balls in the air. The thing is when you are a parent, not only are you juggling your balls but there is also the realization that your time and money aren’t even your own. I think it’s one of the reasons that so-called Mommy blogs remain popular especially with moms of babies and younger kids, they serve as a reminder you aren’t in this race alone. I also suspect that is why Moms tend to congregate on social media and seek likeminded souls to kvetch to about the state of their lives.  You need to be able to get it out.

It’s funny when you think about the fact that in order to get a baby, you have to sex, yet once the babies arrives your sex life in some cases goes missing. In other words that same hopefully fun and lovely activity that made you a parent, goes missing. OK, maybe I am the only one who can’t manage it all, but all I know is that for the first few years of the girl child’s life sex was not on my mind. If someone said you can have a romantic night with the man or 10 hours of sleep in a room all alone…guess which one I would have picked. Yeah, sleep would have won hands down.

Even now, sure she is older and more or less predictable, but kids are funny. I sometimes think they have a sensor, they know when you are planning a romantic rendezvous after their bedtime. You know how it goes, you’ve been flirting via text or however with your partner, letting them know that tonight after dinner is eaten, the dishes are done and the kid is in bed that you want some loving time. Guess what? That is the night the kid basically decides to wear you out. Dinner goes wrong, fuck, everything goes wrong, next thing you know the kid is going to bed later than planned and despite your body saying you need it…you tell your partner yet again, sorry and veg out on the couch with the laptop and a pint of ice cream because the mood is just lost.

I have had a few  of those nights in my life, where the spirit is willing but the flesh says, no darling! In all honesty I think this happens to many mothers of younger kids but how many of us really share that? Have no fear, that’s why I am here! I’ll say it for you. Oddly enough in recent years one of the ways I have found to break out of that too tired rut is to dust off the lingerie or even go and search the back of the closet for the old adult toys. Yeah, this post is sponsored but regular readers ought to know me well enough by now to know, I keep it real.

Looking back in the early years of our relationship, I often played with lingerie and other items, but as the years went by, I just stopped. It doesn’t happen to all of us, but I suspect enough of us stop with the extras. Oh, for a while I even told myself, why do I need to go out of my way, blah, blah…well now when I do decide to dress up, it’s less about him and frankly more about me. Sex is physical, but good sex is mental and sometimes the visual can stimulate the mental. Sometimes you need to take off the yoga pants and sweats and just step into something silky or furry and get in touch with your inner woman that says now! Sometimes stepping into that “costume” or whatever you want to call it, is the visual cue to remind myself that I am not just a mom, wife, worker bee and all that jazz.

Funny thing is how few of us will cop to even owning sex toys, a few weeks back, after much talk on twitter about the Real Housewives of Atlanta and one of the women, Kandi  starting a sex toy line, I did a little poking around and found the clip and a subsequent piece by a fellow blogger. Once again, reminded that despite the fact we are all grown and in some cases have kids…hellooooo, visual proof that we are sexual beings. We still like to detach ourselves from the knowledge that we are sexual beings. Let’s stop this madness, let’s own our sexuality and revel in it, even if time and kids conspire to keep that part of ourselves hidden away.


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Tis the season to be merry and all that jazz, of course holidays for me mean stress! Don’t get me wrong; at the end of the day, I love my work. It’s rewarding emotionally, mentally and spiritually…the only place where frankly my rewards are lacking are in the cash department. As I have taken to joking, in many ways I am like a Missionary of Charity, except I didn’t take a vow of chastity! Gotta have some rewards while still on this rock.
Seriously though, I tend to live in reality most of the time since frankly fantasy land will get me nowhere other than to annoy me. That said, I admit I do find myself wishing I could get away this year. Nothing crazy, frankly going up to the north woods here in Maine where internet connections are scant would be lovely. After all the last time I went away last year, my agency almost lost a grant award since I wasn’t around to answer a clarifying question to the committee that made the decision. Thankfully we drove around to the one spot in the little town we were in where I could get a connection long enough to explain I was on vacation. In the end the grant was awarded but even my get away wasn’t really away.
So universe I am just going to throw out that if you really want to be kind and reward a faithful servant to the poor this holiday season, a getaway with the entire family would be great. If the whole family getting away is not feasible, how about a few days back in my hometown? Chicago in winter is still nice! Am I asking for too much? Well I will bring my surprise down to earth and suggest an hour long massage? In any event, if anyone wants to surprise me this holiday season, any of these options would be good.
What about you? Anything you are secretly wishing for this holiday season?

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