The Power of Wow….not!

As an almost middle aged, slightly overweight woman with a job, a young child and way too many things on my plate, I admit when Eden Fantasys offered me Lori Bryant-Woolridge’s The Power of Wow to review, I jumped on the chance to review it. Like so many women, I struggle to stay in touch with my inner sexy—after all, being a sensuous and sexy woman requires work and like so many women in my demographic, taking care of myself is hard to do at times.
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Woolridge is not only a writer but a sensuality coach and the founder of Stiletto U. a virtual university that advocates healthy and sensual lifestyles. Okay, that’s a good start, right? Surely this book was going to be what I needed to bring back my inner Sex Kitten instead of the Mama Bear.
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Sadly, this book disappointed me from the moment I opened it up. Hell, maybe I should have volunteered for a nice erotic book which would have had more payoff than this book!
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First problem: The book is written as a faux textbook, which I could understand since this is not a book that is meant to be read in a single sitting but a series of lessons that you learn from. However, what doesn’t jibe with the textbook theme was Woolridge’s “girlfriend speak.” Her style of writing is reminiscent of the late 1990’s when women started referring to one another as “girlfriend.” I had a real problem getting past that and taking the book seriously.
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Despite a tone that basically made me want to put the book down and the many simplistic lessons it (Sexy underwear? Sure, but do we really need to reference LaPerla?), I will concede that there are some gems in this book. For example, I do think it’s important to find our own style that is reflective of where we are in life at this present time. Too many times we stay with a style of clothing, particular scents or specific hair because it looked good on us back in 2000; never mind we don’t look the same now as we did then.
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Also, in chapters 1 though 4, the emphasis is on what Woolridge refers to as Individual Wow, and there’s some good information in there but you have to sift a bit. It really could have been condensed much more and the information shared with less faux hominess. Sorry, Lori, but we are not girlfriends!
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Ultimately, this is a good read when you need something more substantive than a bunch of Cosmo magazine articles, but still want to keep it light. If nothing else, following the daily suggestions to do Kegel exercises and to learn to flirt are two big lessons I am fine with and think could do a lot for a person. But otherwise, there isn’t much to this book that is going to inspire a true and deep change that can produce the “wow!”
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DISCLAIMER: I was not paid for this review. Eden Fantasys sent this book to me free of charge, but they did so with the expectation of an honest review from me and no other requirements than to include links in the text to their site.

Housekeeping in BGIM land

For those of you who arrive here at Blackgirlinmaine the old fashioned way by actually coming onto the web page, you may have noticed it’s looking a little different here in BGIM land.
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After much hemming and hawing, ads have arrived but have no fear, no one owns BGIM and unlike my brief and short lived stint with a major blog publishing network that shall go unnamed, ads that appear on BGIM are here because I personally think they are cool as hell.
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I admit taking ads is a scary thing but after 3 years of blogging, while it’s a fun hobby the truth is it needs to at least pay for itself. In the past I have tried online begging but frankly no one digs on it including me, I feel sleazy and you well… you feel pressured. That said, I am keeping the tip jar up but considering it’s only netted a handful of donations, I suspect tip jars also don’t speak to readers. I mean no I don’t need the cash to eat but it would be helpful in making it to a few blogging conferences in 2012 as well as pay for the upkeep of this fine space. Or maybe help recreate the emergency fund that was blown to smithereens this summer.
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You will notice that I have become a blogger with Eden’s Fantasys, hey, I like sex and toys are fun! That said this blog is attached to my very real name and as someone who heads a small faith based agency I do need to be cautious about what I write but from time to time I may review items from them, nothing too raunchy but nice rated R stuff.
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I also have a great ad from June the Homemaker, she is a great gal that does videos so you can learn all that stuff your Mama never taught you…please check her out! Lastly I am running an ad from Red Poppy Design, her designs are not only great but affordable, if you need a website please look her up. I have a few other ads that will be rolling out in the near future, that will be pretty awesome.
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If you are a regular reader and like what you read here, can I ask that you show some love to my advertisers? I’d appreciate it and I am sure the folks advertising would appreciate it as well.
By the way if you are interested in advertising on BGIM, details can be found here.