With the holiday season underway and financial times tough for many folks, everyone is looking for a way to celebrate the holidays without breaking the bank. One of the suggestions that seems to come up often for planning a get together is to make it a potluck style meal. Now obviously the benefits of taking this route are easy to see, no one person gets slammed with the cost of feeding a gaggle of folks.
I must admit that prior to moving to Maine, the only time I ever encountered a potluck was in the work place. I worked at a few places where my coworkers loved having a potluck lunch…I always thought they were nice but really can’t say I ever went to a potluck style gathering at someone’s house. I never hosted one. Generally anytime I hosted a gathering, I put together the meal and told folks to just bring the drinks.
Yet moving to Maine I have encountered potlucks in pretty much every part of my life. We have them at church, friends have them, even work related gatherings are often potlucks. I have to say that potlucks have allowed me to try foods I would never think about making on my own, some of which have become favorites…cocktail weiners being a big one.
But I have to admit I have often wondered is something as simple as a potluck, a cultural difference? See, among my Black friends even in Maine, very few host potlucks. To be honest, I only know one Black person that will host a potluck and even then she still provides most of the meal with the idea that others will provide the dessert.
Now I gotta be honest, I have asked some of my inner circle their thoughts on why don’t Black folks embrace the potluck as a cheap way to entertain and to be honest, I am not gonna post the replies since frankly they are insulting and not logical. After all lack of hygiene knows no racial boundaries and yes there are plenty of white folks who consider their pets family members but Black folks like animals too and might get a stray hair into the chili as well.
So I ask you dear reader, is a potluck a symbol of a racial and cultural difference? Or is it just a regional difference?
I love the idea of entertaining yet rarely do it because of the cost and most certainly am thinking that potlucks might be a way to entertain without breaking the bank. Yet as a Black woman, I am strangely curiously about why potlucks are not as popular with Black folks as they are with White folks.
See, this is what happens when you are stuck home with a sick child and snow…your mind goes all over the place!
14 thoughts on “Potlucks and Race”
I am so happy to find this post. I am the PTO President at my kids’ school and we stared doing potlucks for dinner at our PTO meetings last year to save money (we are a public school suffering budget cuts and do very little fundraising – another story). Anyway, we struggle with having our PTO reflect the brown, black and white faces of our students – mostly white people show up for the meetings. A black mom told me recently that we were alienating black people by having potlucks at the meetings. I was completely shocked – I had never heard of such a thing and our school has open house/potluck style events all the time. Also, I have been invited to several “cookouts” with black folks where I was asked to bring a dish to share – isn’t this a potluck? I am trying to be culturally sensitive but just really confused – is this a regional/class/cultural issue as much as a race one? Any insight would be most appreciated!
I have participated in potlucks at work on several occasions. I only eat certain people’s food,..depending on habits I observe from them at work…(e.g., washing hands after leaving the restroom, washing hands before they eat their lunch, covering their mouth or nose when they sneeze)..or if I have personally visited their home.
Their work habits will tell you whether they are a clean person and will help you decide whether you would eat their food or not.
If a person is constantly talking about their pet(s), then I would probably not eat their food.
I’m black, from the midwest (Detroit) with family from the south. Not only have I participated in all black (as well as other types) potlucks at school and at the university, my extended family holiday dinners have ALWAYS been potlucks! We never had a sit down dinner where the host cooks everything. Thanksgiving and Christmas is all about grandma, auntie, and your “cuzin an em” bringing the dish they are well known for. A bunch of us African American and a few Brit expats in Brazil tried to have a NYE potluck, but folks did not act right! Everyone brought liquor, which is good, but no food. I brought chicken wings and cake and everyone was so thnakful that they did not have to get drunk on an empty stomach. I told them I would host a potluck soon, but I am going to make a list and hold folks accountable for bringing food! BTW, a younger cousin tried the list thing with my family, but it did not work out too well. The fam prefers to just “wing it” when it comes to the communal dinners.
Girl, oh my goodness! FINALLY, someone understands. I have a love-hate relationship with potlucks. I have always considered potlucks TACKY. In my upbringing when you invited someone over to your house YOU were supposed to cook for them, serve them and lavish them as a guest. And this is what I tend to do as an adult. I was introduced to the potluck world as an adult, and I have seen all types of foolishness go down. From people throwing birthday parties for themselves and asking you to bring food or liquor, etc.
On the other hand, my friends and I often get together to have “Latino brunches”–it’s a celebration of our family-like friendship, culture and food. I’ve hosted a couple of these Everyone brings a dish. I don’t necessarily consider this a potluck. I’m not sure why. LOL. As I said, it’s more like family vs. throwing a party and demanding that people bring food.
I also thinks it’s a question of etiquette. If someone invites me to their house for dinner, there is a 95 percent chance I will bring wine–even if they tell me to bring nothing. I feel that it is proper etiquette and gracious to show up with a wine or a small gift. On the other hand, I also feel it is rude to ASK people to bring stuff. To me, common sense and etiquette dictate that, if someone is offering a meal, the guest should ask if they can bring anything.
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