Another post that if you are related to me in anyway, ya probably should skip today’s post.
If there is one that that I am in this blog, it’s honest. I figure if I am dealing with an issue or concern, chances are I am not the only one. I have very few close friends, my best friend is a 43 year old dude and while I love him there are some things we just don’t talk about. It’s in these moments when I grapple with what feels like lady issues I often wish I had a sister or that my Mom was still here. My mom and I had the type of relationship that we could talk about anything. I used to sometimes cringe when she would ask about sex related things but the older I get, I miss those talks.
Regular readers know that the Spousal Unit and I have had our share of problems, marriage is hard, add some kids, a 125+ year old house, too little money, way too many bills and career dissatisfaction and voila! You are like who the hell is the dude that sleeps on the other side of the bed and why is he annoying me. Okay, maybe that’s not you but that’s been me for a while.
Anyway I did a little experiment last week and by golly its working. I decided last week to give up tweeting for the day. Seriously, because I spend a lot of time on my computer dealing with emails, grants etc and due to the nature of my work, it’s been easy to get sucked into playing too much online especially with social media. I think this happens to anyone who works alone primarily and has a schedule where they can work from home. I struggle with maintaining the boundary between my home life and my work life and frankly I am starting to put my foot down.
So last week, I went 24 hours without tweeting and instead chose to spend that half hour or so that I would spend screwing around online, screwing around with the ole man and let me tell you, that one day just lit a spark. If you follow me on twitter you may have noticed that my tweeting has slacked off because I am now making a commitment to engage in intimate touch daily with my husband. For some readers, you are already there, but I know there are a few of us that have struggled with this.
I am lucky in that my husband’s office is in our house and unless he is on a call I can generally whisk him away for a few minutes. Initially I felt stupid, but decided for once to just go with the flow, I have also decided that when I feel the stirrings down below that its time to act, plain and simple. Now I admit with a 5 year old its not always easy and yep there have been some junky meals this past week but guess what she lived and more importantly its almost like order has been restored in our lives.
Talk about a quick fix, an orgasm a day can keep the ickies away. So I say if you feel like you are in a rut with your relationship, turn off your smart phone, unplug, do whatever to escape and just start. Yep you may feel silly but really you will feel good, your partner will feel good, all of a sudden tensions seem to fade away. I admit if you are in a relationship with serious issues this might not be applicable but if you are caught in the typical marriage rut that can happen just because you are busy and lack time, unplug.
Funny thing for me is that while I still have a hard time fitting in other self help things such as my yoga and meditation practice on a daily basis, I find that fitting in a few minutes for sex is possible. Lately I have been staying up late to play with the ole man which I admit is a hell of a lot more fun than staying up late reading blogs!
Happy Hump Day and may you get some humping in today!