“Hands are not for hitting” this is what I repeatedly told my kids when they entered the hitting phase that kids are prone to taking part of. For most of us the desire to hit our fellow human is a passing phase especially as we get older but for kids raised in homes where violence is prevalent, in many cases they grow up imitating the behavior they witnessed in their households.
This may be the case with a certain Chris Brown, who decided that being young and famous with a cute girlfriend wasn’t enough but decided to lay hands on Rhianna. For the record, I don’t really know who either of these kids are, they are young enough to be my son’s peers and at this stage in my life, I don’t do pop music or whatever passes for in style music. I’m a ole school kind of gal, give me some Marvin, some Anita, hell give me some New Order or Cure.
However the blogs and online rags have been blowing up about this young Chris fellow doing his Ike Turner impression on Rhianna, so I got curious and figured I would read up about it. I will be honest, what I have read doesn’t sound pretty but what concerns me is the number of young folks who seem to think maybe Rhianna did something to deserve what by all accounts sounds like a ass beating.
Look, I am about to say something that might piss a few folks off. While I don’t condone laying hands on anyone (my ex tried this shit once and that is a large part of why he is an ex) I will say that humans being what they are, there are instances where I might concede that a fairly non-violent person might get violent. Case in point, should I decide to step out on the spousal unit and be brazen enough to say bring some other human home to our marital bed and the spousal unit walked in on the sordid affair, while my hubby is a laid back fellow, I suspect he might start to snap, crackle and pop like a Rice Krispie. A sista might even get hit.
Now should he hit me, that would be some wrong ass shit, on the other hand…lets be real and say it would take one hell of a person to not get angry and fly off the wall. Look, if I came home and found some other woman in my bed, I’m gonna be real honest and say I know me and it would not be pretty.
However the example I gave is one that most folks rarely encounter since most folks that are creeping around on their partner tend to want to hide the shit.
No, for the most part no matter what, hitting someone is not cool and the fact that so many young men and women think its justified is down right scary to me. Look hands are not for hitting, a basic lesson we should learn early on. If we are with someone that brings out the basest instincts in us which might include the desire to physically lash out, perhaps its time to reconsider our choice of partner.