It’s almost June as I write this and I’m still trying to figure out how racist the Duchess of Sussex’s white side of the family had to be for her to cut them out of her life the way she had to.
The marriage between Meghan Markle and Prince Harry has been the must-see TV event of the year thus far. I was two days into my vacation when I woke up at the crack of dawn to see everything from the dress she wore to the people who were invited. I had the same view that many of her family members had and there is one glaring reason why.
This isn’t the Duchess of Sussex’s first wedding. Oh, no hon-tey. In 2011, she married some random in the Caribbean. She invited her entire family.
Wait, I got that wrong…her mother was in attendance. Her mother, Doria Ragland, was in attendance. Does that sound familiar? Now, just sit back and try to wrap your head around the fact that her clear side of the family is shitting ducks that they weren’t invited to this wedding, while simultaneously not caring that they were not invited to her first wedding.
You could assume that it’s all because of who she married this time around, but, with white supremacy running rampant and doing whatever the fuck it wants to do lately, we have to assume the obvious instead of assuming the best.
Meghan Markle’s white side of the family is likely very, very racist. It’s the obvious observation, but likely the most accurate. Her half brother and sister did an excellent job of hinting towards their prejudice in the days following their engagement. Everything from the promise of a “tell-all” book to writing letters to Kensington Palace trying to tell Prince Harry how “unqualified” Meghan was to marry him are examples of their prejudice probably manifested itself over the course of their rocky relationship.
Seems like they thought they should have a say in everything Meghan did or even thought about doing. Seems like they thought Meghan owed them something. Seems like they thought they owned Meghan in some way.
All three of these are classic examples of white supremacy in America. White people feel like they should have a say in everything, even about how we react to our own oppression. They feel like we owe them our service and respect just because their privilege put them in an elevated place in life. They feel like everything about us (from our music to dance to style) is something they are allowed to steal, wear and occasionally co-opt as their own.
And, in the case of Meghan, as soon as it became known to them who she was dating, her white side of the family quickly stepped into the spotlight and tried to lay claims to a sister they haven’t really spoken with in over 10 years. Not only did they try to lay claim to her, but they became furious when they realized that she was having none of that. Tears were shed and will continue to be shed.
Throughout all of this, the Duchess of Sussex and her mother have remained a shiny, beautiful example of how to handle stressful situations with grace. The ceremony was a beautiful mixture of British tradition with Black American culture. I, from the bottom of my heart, wish the couple a joyous and lasting marriage.
Her clear side of the family though? I hope y’all bitches get heartburn you can’t fix.
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