Life is what happens when you are busy making other plans

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Twenty years ago, when my mother died, I read John Lennon’s famous quote, “Life is what happens when you are busy making other plans.” It struck me hard enough that I put it in the signature line of my emails. It’s one of those quotes that is a very real truism: We make plans, but …

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Black Girl in Midlife

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Recently a disgruntled reader left a comment on my personal Facebook page telling me that I am self-absorbed and not doing anything for the Black people of Maine. Initially, I was pissed off but upon further reflection, I realized that I am in a stage of my life where from the outside, I probably do …

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Not good-bye but a new direction: The future of BGIM

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If you live long enough, you realize that nothing lasts forever, from relationships to careers to these containers we call bodies and so much else. Everything and everyone will eventually bite the dust or, at the very least, make major changes at some point to ensure their survival until their eventual demise. As uncomfortable as …

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