Black Girl in Maine

Musings of a black woman living in the nation's whitest state

About Me

Who is Black Girl in Maine?

Black Girl in Maine, also known as BGIM for those who want to keep their typing-related finger stress down, is a Chicago-born, Chicago-raised woman by the name of Shay Stewart-Bouley who relocated to Maine in 2002. A graduate of DePaul University and Antioch University New England, BGIM is by day (and sometimes nights and weekends) the Executive Director of a faith-based non-profit community center focused on youth, and has a career in the non-profit and social services sectors both in Chicago and in Southern Maine that goes back to the mid-1990s. In 2003, BGIM started writing periodically for publications such as the Portland Press Herald and the Journal Tribune, later that year landing her own column in the Portland Phoenix, “Diverse-City,” which she has used to share insight and commentary monthly on a variety of diversity issues ranging from race to class, gender relations to sexual orientation, and workplace issues to lifestyle choices. In 2011, she won a New England Press Association Award for her work writing on diversity issues.

The Black Girl in Maine blog was started in 2008 as a way to blow off steam and frankly to connect with any other people of color who are in Maine or other Northern New England states, whether by choice or by unforeseen circumstances. BGIM will tell you without hesitation that this is not a blog that can be easily categorized. She is a mother but not a mommy blogger, she pontificates on social issues but isn’t a social commentator per se, and she is a woman of color but not a race issue blogger. Her roles as mother, daughter, sister, wife, columnist and straddler (middle class but with a blue-collar upbringing) drive her to comment on many things and color her opinions on a multitude of issues, but in the end, she notes, “The truth is I am big mouth with an opinion on any and everything.” Oddly enough in December 2011, BGIM was named to Babble’s Top 100 Mom Bloggers of 2011.

Opinions expressed here are BGIM’s personal opinions alone and while many other people may share them, they should never be construed as the opinions of her current or past employers; any professional organizations with which she might be involved; nor anyone who may have contracted with her for consulting, writing or other services now or in the future.  To be honest, some of BGIM’s own opinions might not always be her opinions, as she continues to expand her knowledge and readjust her views of herself and the world.

  • genmaspeaks says:

    hello,
    It is nice to know black folks are in Maine. You have a wonderful blog. I will be back. Good place to sit and visit. Love the photo.
    Genma
    http://genmaspeaks.blogspot.com
    http://www.genmaspeaks.com

    October 19, 2008 at 9:20 pm
  • Sharon says:

    Nice site, BGIM.

    Like you, I’ve been reading, pondering… and have not found answers to a long list of concerns.

    “Clowns to the left of me, jokers to the right….here I am, stuck in the middle again.”

    Those lyrics sum up my views.

    Going forward, I hope women connect, discuss, and work to present a voice of reason in a time of great uncertainty.

    Very best to you, the spousal unit, and mini-me :-)

    October 31, 2008 at 2:28 pm
  • Lorraine says:

    I like your blog. Continued success to you.

    April 28, 2009 at 5:36 pm
  • Grey says:

    Nice to meet you! I’ve loved your posts, they keep me thinking.

    October 15, 2009 at 6:36 pm
  • Tayaa says:

    Hello,

    I just moved to Maine about 3 weeks ago and I just love your blog I am too a black woman in the mix of Maine, my family is from the West Side of Chicago so I know this is a big change for you.

    October 28, 2009 at 12:43 am
  • Stephanie says:

    I’m not in Maine but Boston from NC….I feel a tiny lil piece of your pain. I love your blog and I just sent you a message on Nappturality. Hang in there sis! If you ever feel the need to head this way shout me out….I certainly could use a chance to get out of the city.

    peace.grace.love.light

    }i{

    November 28, 2009 at 4:38 am
  • tyrone mixon says:

    I’ve been up to Maine and it is a beautiful state.

    This is my first visit to your site and I just wanted to see or something like that, what a Black girl was doing in Maine. I know. I bet you married a white dude. I’m willing to bet my life on it and I swear I haven’t read that anywhere.

    Oh yeah, I’m Black.

    March 12, 2010 at 12:25 am
  • Blackgirlinmaine's Spousal Unit says:

    It is true that I’m white. However, the wife dragged me here…not the other way around. ;-)

    I had only been to Maine once before (years before we moved here), and it was a miserable trip fraught with problems.

    In hindsight, the move has probably been good for us (and it was necessary for her to have regular contact with her son), but originally, I would have been happy to keep my melanin-challenged ass in Chicago where the palette of humans is more diverse….

    March 12, 2010 at 10:49 am
  • Black girl going to Maine says:

    I’m about to move to Maine and I’m black. Anyone willing to give me some advice or whatever? I hear it’s hard to meet friends and I’ll be up in the Hallowell area. According to City Data, there are no blacks in Hallowell. Any advice.

    March 27, 2010 at 5:52 pm
  • Blackgirlinmaine's Spousal Unit says:

    Well, on the bright side, you won’t be too far from Augusta. Hallowell is the smallest “city” in Maine (city is always a relative term in this state…most cities here seem more like really big towns to me), but Augusta is the state capital and I suspect it, at least, has some small amount of diversity, but probably less than in Southern Maine.

    I would suggest making it a habit to get into Portland with some regularity. Maybe not every week, but the drive is reasonable enough to get down there a couple times a month at least, and maybe develop some black contacts.

    The Augusta area is pretty civilized, from what I recall. Nothing spectacular, but reminded me of suburban areas in more populous states.

    The key is not to get too stressed out or expect too much the first year or so. You’ll spend much of that time just finding places you can consider cool or interesting, and getting used to the pace of life in Maine and the personalities.

    I’ll leave any additional advice to my wife.

    March 27, 2010 at 8:34 pm
  • reach4thetoes says:

    Hi! I’m a black woman who moved to NH from Los Angeles to teach at UNH last year, and I’m sooo glad to come across your blog. I’m beginning a new research project on women of color in New England. Actually, I have a blog (that I need to get writing on) called This (Covered) Bridge Called My Back: New England’s Radical Women of Color. I’m looking forward to reading your earlier postings and getting up to Portland.

    Courtney

    May 25, 2010 at 7:04 pm
  • Snarky's Machine says:

    I feel you! Vermont has about a many brown folks as Maine.

    June 26, 2010 at 1:51 pm
  • blackgirlinmaine says:

    Maine and Vermont are almost dead even when it comes to Black folks except Maine has a few more I believe.

    June 26, 2010 at 10:41 pm
  • redlami says:

    Pretty close, Maine is 0.8% black (10,918) and Vermont is 0.7% (4,329) as of 2006. The two whitest states east of the Mississippi.

    June 28, 2010 at 9:49 am
  • www.itsafullnest.com says:

    Loving this!
    I will visit often.
    I moved to Colorado in 2002, from CHICAGO (Hyde Park) and I miss Chicago daily.
    Hubby is from rural MN and Chicago was a bit much for him.
    So now we’re in Colorado with our two kiddos and my non-black mother-in-law.
    Gorgeous Colorado is about 4.4% black, and I do have my lonely moments (and I get tired of explaining EVERYTHING).
    Keep up the great work!
    -Kanesha

    September 29, 2010 at 1:23 pm
  • anzinga says:

    peace & greetings. I enjoyed my visit. stop by Anzinga’s Blog sometime and say hello.

    September 29, 2010 at 2:15 pm
  • Afriqshenehneh says:

    So, how do we get all the Black girls in Maine together for some prolly much appreciated bonding time?
    Bonjour! Je m’appelle Folami.
    I’m teaching myself French, but more importantly I’m also a Black girl in Maine and a long time follower of your blog…in fact a year before I ever considered Maine an actual place I ran across your musings and enjoyed them. Now I’se here. And outta my mind in Lowell bout 45 minutes north from Bangor.

    We should get familiar(imho), no?

    http://www.facebook.com/bellepepper

    October 8, 2010 at 9:44 pm
  • Consuelo says:

    I stumbled across your website by accident, but must admit I like what I’ve read. Do your thang gurl! Nice to see what I’m experiencing is very valid…gotta love that joint custody stuff :-(

    October 21, 2010 at 7:54 pm
  • Folami says:

    Hey! I’m AfriqShenehneh on nappturality, I couldn’t figure out how to contact you there I’m still jus a lurker. I’ll be in Portland soon for the P-Funk show and would love to spend time gettin my hair correct and what not. I’m about to have to hit up westbrook because all these salons I talk to promise they know about natural hair, but…I don’t trust them one bit. Anywho, email me whenever you have time, my dear.

    November 7, 2010 at 11:35 am
  • Joe says:

    Hey! I just ran across your blog and really enjoying both your and your spousal unit’s posts. I am a white guy from Maine who will soon be engaged to an awesome black woman from St Lucia. She lives in Mass. I rarely see couples like us in the mass. southcoast area but seem to see a few in the Portland area. Have you had any musings on this?

    December 5, 2010 at 10:59 am
  • Julie Davidson says:

    I was turned on to your blog by a fellow sister whose son attends school with my son.

    I love what you say and how you say it! Black people in Maine? Who knew! I was adopted by a white family so I understand how things can be.

    Kudos on being one of the top bloggers! Go sister go!

    January 13, 2012 at 5:21 pm
  • relocator says:

    My family is in the process of determing where to live when we relocate to Maine. I have two children. My son who is 9 and my daughter who is 8. We are african american and my husband will be working out of the Bangor area. Can anyone point me in the right direction regarding places to live with great schools for my children. We are moving from Fairfield county CT.
    “feeling a little lost”

    Thanks in advance to all who respond!!

    February 17, 2012 at 5:46 pm
  • Ronni says:

    Hey! I came across your blog from the Top 100 blog thingy. I like the way you write. And you do yoga. That’s enough for me. I’m going to add you to my RSS reader so I can read more. :)

    February 24, 2012 at 2:51 am

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